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问世间情为何物

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这不是情诗

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是一则公案

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问世间情为何物

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直教生死相许

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这两句话

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很多人第一反应是金庸 神雕侠侣 里李莫愁的台词

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李莫愁确实反反复复念过

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但她只是在念别人的词

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真正写下这两句的人

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是一个十六岁的少年

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他叫元好问

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那一年是金章宗泰和五年

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乙丑年

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元好问赴并州赶考

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在路上遇见一个捕雁的猎人

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猎人跟他讲

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今天早上我布网捕到两只雁

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打死了一只

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另一只从网里逃脱了

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却一直不肯飞走

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在天上盘旋鸣叫

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最后从空中一头栽下来

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撞地而死

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元好问听完

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整个人愣在那里

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他掏钱把这两只雁都买了下来

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带到汾河边埋了

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垒了一堆石头做记号

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起名叫雁丘

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然后他写下了那首 摸鱼儿

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第一句

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就是我们所有人从小到大都听过的那句千古之问

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问世间情为何物

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直教生死相许

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哈喽

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大家好

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我是王利杰

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今天我想跟你讲一个你可能从来没听过的版本

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这句话

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根本不是一首情诗的开头

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它是一个十六岁的少年

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被一只雁的死给问住了之后

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写下的一个公案

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他不是在歌颂爱情

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他是在发问 这是什么

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这个能让一只雁从天上自己砸下来的东西

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到底是什么

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八百多年过去了

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这个问题

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还没有真正的答案

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我们今天一说到这句话

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脑子里闪出的画面都是轰轰烈烈的爱情

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誓言 眼泪 殉情

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我们把它当成一句文案

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印在书签上

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写在情书里

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但你仔细去看元好问听到的那个场景

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根本不是两个人

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是两只雁

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一只刚被打死

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另一只不是被追杀

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不是被围困

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是自由的

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是有选择的

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它完全可以飞走

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飞到另一片水面

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再找一只雁

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继续活下去

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雁的寿命可以到二十年

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它还有大把的日子

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但是它没有

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它在空中盘旋了两圈

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做了一个决定

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然后用自己的身体

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把自己砸在了地上

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你有没有想过

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这件事从生物学上讲

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根本说不通

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按进化论最朴素的算法

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生物的第一天命是活下去

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一个愿意为同类而死的基因

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早就应该被自然选择淘汰干净了

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可这个基因就是被留了下来

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还留得很深

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不止雁

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很多结对的鸟 鹤 天鹅 信天翁

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失去伴侣之后都会出现整套的衰亡反应

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不吃 不动 不再求偶

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一部分个体此后的存活率会明显下降

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动物行为学里有一个词

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叫结偶关系

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科学家后来发现

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一旦一对个体结成了长期的结偶

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它们的神经系统会把对方当成自己的一部分编码进去

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脑子里有一套预测模型

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这套模型时时刻刻都在预测

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伴侣应该在这里 应该在做这个 应该发出那种声音

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当伴侣突然消失

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模型整个崩塌

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崩塌的不是心情

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是一整套让它活着的操作系统

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元好问那天听猎人讲的

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不是一只伤心欲绝的雁

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是一个活着的意义结构

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在瞬间被抽空之后

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自己拆了自己的硬件

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你现在再回头读那句话

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问世间情为何物

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直教生死相许

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它不是一个感叹

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它是一声惊恐

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一个十六岁的孩子

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第一次撞见了这股力量

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他被震住了

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他在问

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这到底是什么

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两千五百年前

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有另一个人

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也被这个问题问住过

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他叫阿难

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阿难是佛陀身边跟得最久的弟子

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号称多闻第一

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佛陀讲过的每一部经

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阿难都亲耳听过

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按说这样一个人

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应该是最扎实 最稳当的

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但 楞严经 一开头讲的

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恰恰就是阿难差点被一个女人拐走的故事

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那天

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阿难一个人出去乞食

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路过一口井边

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有个姑娘在打水

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这个姑娘姓摩登伽

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一眼就喜欢上了阿难

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回家就跟母亲说

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我这辈子非阿难不嫁

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她母亲是个会咒术的人

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念了一个古老的咒 叫先梵天咒

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就把阿难从几里之外摄了过来

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摄到她家的床边

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阿难本来好好地走在路上

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突然间身不由己

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脚就往那个方向走

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等他回过神来

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已经快要破戒了

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佛陀当时正在一个法会上

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忽然停下来

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对身边的文殊菩萨说

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快去

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阿难有难

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文殊带着楞严咒赶过去

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把阿难从那个境里拉了出来

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阿难被救回来之后

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在佛陀面前痛哭

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他说

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师父

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我跟了您这么多年

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听了您这么多法

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为什么还是栽在这么一件事情上

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这时候佛陀问了一个问题

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这个问题

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成了整部 楞严经 的开头

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佛陀说

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阿难

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你当初是为什么出家的

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阿难回答

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我看见师父您有三十二相

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庄严无比

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我是被您相好的这个相给吸引了

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才发心跟您修行的

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佛陀紧接着问了第二个问题

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这一问

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就是佛学史上有名的七处征心

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阿难

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你说你看见我的相

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生起了爱乐之心

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那我问你 这个心在哪里

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阿难说

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心在身体里面

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佛陀说

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不对

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几句话就把这个位置拆掉了

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阿难说

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那心在身体外面

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佛陀说

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还是不对

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又几句话拆掉

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阿难接着说

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在眼根里面

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在明暗之间

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在随所合处

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在中间

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在一切无所着处 一共找了七个地方

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佛陀一个一个全部否决

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楞严经 整整十卷书

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就从这一个问题展开

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你觉得佛陀在刁难阿难吗

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不是

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佛陀是在做一件极其温柔的事

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他在帮阿难看一件事

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那个让你几乎毁掉自己的东西

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你说它叫情

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你说它是心在动 那好

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咱们先一起找找这个心在哪里

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找到了

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我们再谈怎么处理它

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结果找遍了七个地方

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找不到

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找不到

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这三个字

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是整部 楞严经 最惊心动魄的结论之一

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什么意思

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你之所以被那股力量拖着走

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你以为你被一个具体的人勾住了

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但当你去找那个被勾住的你的时候

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你找不到它

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你只能找到一连串的反应

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心跳 呼吸 念头 画面 预测 恐惧

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你找不到一个可以指认的中心

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这就像刚才那只雁

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它死的那一刻

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你以为它在为另一只雁而死

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但你真的去看它的神经系统

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它是在为自己已经塌掉的那个预测模型而死

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对方只是那个模型的锚点

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锚点被拔掉

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模型自己炸了

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情执的真相

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就在这一层

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当一个人说我爱他爱到要死

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他很少是在爱那个具体的人

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他是在爱自己投射在他身上的那个故事

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那个关于我终于被看见 被选择

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被永远留住的故事

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对方越是配合这个故事

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他越觉得对方就是命定的那一个

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对方一旦跟故事不符

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他立刻心碎

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你再想一想

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你上一次为感情撕心裂肺的时候

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痛的究竟是什么

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是对方这个人离开了

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还是你心里那个我值得被爱的版本

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连同它依赖的全部证据

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整套崩塌了

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大多数人会说

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我痛的就是那个人

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可是你把对方的脸 名字 声音 习惯

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一一在脑子里过一遍

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你会发现

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每一次刺痛的

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其实是你自己某一部分的坍塌

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是你以为自己已经找到了的那个未来

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是你以为终于不必再孤独的那个承诺

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是你以为这一次终于可以放下防备的那个出口

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对方只是承担了这一切的支架

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支架撤了

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挂在上面的全部身份一起掉下来

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这就是为什么佛陀没有说情是坏的

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他只是让阿难看一件事

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情不是坏的

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情执是错认的

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情是一股很强的能量

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它让两个生命之间形成共振

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能让母亲为孩子拼命

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能让朋友为朋友两肋插刀

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能让一只雁放弃天空

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这股能量本身是中性的

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情执

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是当你把这股能量指向的那个对象

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错认成了你的本来面目

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错认成了你的安稳之处

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错认成了你活着的理由

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那一刻

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你就从一个感受情的人

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变成了一个被情感受的人

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主客翻转了

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翻转的那一秒

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情就变成了执

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而且你不要以为情执都是像殉情

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像心碎这样的大场面

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大部分人一辈子也不会真的为谁去撞地

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情执在我们日常生活里

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是以非常小 非常琐碎的方式在运转的

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他发消息隔了两个小时没回

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你心里那个小小的咯噔一下

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他今天回家没跟你说一句话

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你一晚上都在重新解读他的每一个表情

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他最近似乎对某个同事多笑了一下

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你开始在脑子里编写一个你根本没有证据的剧本

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这些不是爱情出了问题

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这些是一只小小的雁

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在你心里每天盘旋两圈

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时不时就想往下栽一下

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你去观察这种小小的咯噔一下

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它跟那只雁往地上砸的那一下

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本质上是同一个东西

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它们只是体量不同

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大的那一下

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叫殉情

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小的那一下

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叫吃醋 叫患得患失

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叫我今天又忍不住点开了他的朋友圈

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能看见小的那一下的人

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就不容易被大的那一下带走

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因为你已经在小剂量里

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把那股力的形状看清楚了

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还记得汤显祖在 牡丹亭 里那句千古名言吗

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情不知所起

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一往而深

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生者可以死

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死可以生

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这也是一句被当成情诗歌颂了四百年的话

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但汤显祖本人是一个深谙佛法的人

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他写这句话

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跟元好问写问世间情为何物

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是一路的 不是歌颂

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是诊断

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情不知所起 那颗种子

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你根本不知道是什么时候种下去的

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一往而深 一旦机缘到了

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发了芽

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根本拦不住

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生者可以死

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死可以生 这股力量

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能直接穿透生和死的边界

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你说这是爱情的伟大

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不

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这是执念的伟大

331
00:11:23,962 --> 00:11:26,179
这里有一个非常关键的区分

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我希望你今天从这期视频里哪怕只带走这一句话都行

333
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能让你穿越生死的力量

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和能让你醒来的力量

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从来不是同一种力量

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能穿越生死的

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是执念

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它能让你跨越很远

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能让你投生

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能让你千百世追逐一个人

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但它不会让你醒来

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恰恰相反

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执念越深

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梦越逼真

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能让你醒来的

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是另一种力量

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是那个看见执念在运转的觉知本身

348
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它不用做任何事

349
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它只需要看见

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看见一次

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它就松动一寸

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看见一百次

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它就拆掉一堵墙

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这就是为什么认真的修行传统

355
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从佛家到道家到斯多葛

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追到最后

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矛头都不是指向情本身 指向的是把情错认成自己

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你爱一个人

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是你生命里的一个事件

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你认为没有他我就不是我了

361
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这是一个错误的本体论陈述

362
00:12:27,709 --> 00:12:30,806
佛陀让阿难在七个地方找那个心

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找不到 不是在否认那个心

364
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而是在告诉他

365
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这个心不是一个物件

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它是一个事件

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它在发生

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但它不在任何地方

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一个事件

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怎么可能把你整个生命的分量都押在上面

371
00:12:46,156 --> 00:12:48,733
我们再回到那只自己砸下来的雁

372
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如果那天猎人遇见的不是一只普通的雁

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而是一只开悟的雁 会发生什么

374
00:12:55,717 --> 00:12:57,814
那只雁会停在树枝上

375
00:12:57,836 --> 00:12:59,454
看着同伴被带走

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00:12:59,757 --> 00:13:02,613
它会感到一阵巨大的悲伤涌上来

377
00:13:02,757 --> 00:13:04,533
这个悲伤是真实的

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00:13:04,556 --> 00:13:06,133
是它生命的一部分

379
00:13:06,436 --> 00:13:07,314
它不会压抑

380
00:13:07,517 --> 00:13:09,094
也不会假装没事

381
00:13:09,357 --> 00:13:10,714
但它同时会看见

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00:13:11,076 --> 00:13:12,893
这股悲伤是一股力

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00:13:12,997 --> 00:13:15,574
一股正在自己身体里穿过的力

384
00:13:15,796 --> 00:13:17,974
它不会把自己变成这股力

385
00:13:18,196 --> 00:13:20,773
它不会让这股力替它做决定

386
00:13:21,695 --> 00:13:25,152
它可能会守着伴侣埋葬的地方哀鸣好几天

387
00:13:25,615 --> 00:13:26,812
然后某一天清晨

388
00:13:27,255 --> 00:13:28,552
它会拍拍翅膀

389
00:13:28,615 --> 00:13:29,792
重新起飞

390
00:13:30,176 --> 00:13:31,473
它不是不爱了

391
00:13:31,656 --> 00:13:35,272
它是看见了 那份爱从来不在对方身上

392
00:13:35,335 --> 00:13:38,152
那份爱在它自己的生命之中流过

393
00:13:38,255 --> 00:13:39,052
对方走了

394
00:13:39,495 --> 00:13:40,292
流动的那个

395
00:13:40,695 --> 00:13:41,473
还在

396
00:13:41,936 --> 00:13:42,292
当然

397
00:13:42,615 --> 00:13:43,912
雁做不到这个

398
00:13:44,255 --> 00:13:46,393
我们大部分人也做不到

399
00:13:46,816 --> 00:13:49,593
但这并不代表这个选项不存在

400
00:13:50,016 --> 00:13:50,993
它只是说

401
00:13:51,016 --> 00:13:53,993
它需要一双能看见自己的眼睛

402
00:13:54,375 --> 00:13:55,974
而培养这双眼睛

403
00:13:55,975 --> 00:13:58,312
就是所有修行要做的事

404
00:13:59,514 --> 00:14:01,232
所以当你下一次心碎

405
00:14:01,233 --> 00:14:03,331
或者看见身边的朋友心碎

406
00:14:03,434 --> 00:14:05,611
不要急着劝 别想了

407
00:14:05,794 --> 00:14:07,251
时间会冲淡一切

408
00:14:07,274 --> 00:14:09,690
他不值得 这些话都没用

409
00:14:10,073 --> 00:14:11,530
你可以陪他坐一会儿

410
00:14:11,554 --> 00:14:12,951
然后轻轻地问他一句

411
00:14:13,394 --> 00:14:14,390
你现在痛的

412
00:14:14,593 --> 00:14:15,591
是对方这个人

413
00:14:16,113 --> 00:14:18,390
还是你原本挂在他身上的那个自己

414
00:14:19,154 --> 00:14:21,290
这句话可能会让他愣一下

415
00:14:21,593 --> 00:14:22,511
愣住的那一刻

416
00:14:22,833 --> 00:14:24,451
他就开始回头看了

417
00:14:24,713 --> 00:14:26,131
回头看的那一刻

418
00:14:26,274 --> 00:14:27,890
七处征心的那个问题

419
00:14:28,073 --> 00:14:30,251
就在他身上重新启动了

420
00:14:30,715 --> 00:14:31,853
回到元好问

421
00:14:32,316 --> 00:14:35,172
他那天在并州道中埋了两只雁

422
00:14:35,395 --> 00:14:36,493
写了一首词

423
00:14:36,956 --> 00:14:38,154
但他一辈子

424
00:14:38,156 --> 00:14:40,613
都没有亲自给出这个问题的答案

425
00:14:41,196 --> 00:14:42,993
那句问世间情为何物

426
00:14:43,316 --> 00:14:45,195
他到死都留着

427
00:14:45,196 --> 00:14:46,013
没有填

428
00:14:46,836 --> 00:14:48,034
我一直觉得

429
00:14:48,036 --> 00:14:50,332
这是整首词最厉害的地方

430
00:14:50,836 --> 00:14:52,733
他不是没想到答案

431
00:14:53,275 --> 00:14:54,773
他是故意不填

432
00:14:55,436 --> 00:14:57,413
因为任何一个具体的答案

433
00:14:57,475 --> 00:14:59,493
都会把这个问题封死

434
00:14:59,956 --> 00:15:00,633
而这个问题

435
00:15:01,115 --> 00:15:02,773
必须保持敞开

436
00:15:02,875 --> 00:15:05,292
才能让每一个后来遇见它的人

437
00:15:05,316 --> 00:15:07,013
自己去回答一次

438
00:15:08,260 --> 00:15:08,698
今天

439
00:15:09,060 --> 00:15:10,957
这个问题传到了你手上

440
00:15:11,180 --> 00:15:12,357
你有没有想过

441
00:15:12,461 --> 00:15:16,117
在你心里升起情为何物这个念头的那一瞬间

442
00:15:16,300 --> 00:15:19,877
你其实已经站在了那只雁看得见的位置

443
00:15:20,020 --> 00:15:22,158
你已经半只脚迈出来了

444
00:15:22,461 --> 00:15:23,538
剩下的那半只脚

445
00:15:23,861 --> 00:15:25,558
不是靠更多的思考

446
00:15:25,660 --> 00:15:29,158
是靠一次又一次地回头看那个正在问的人

447
00:15:29,540 --> 00:15:30,857
你看得见那个人吗

448
00:15:32,001 --> 00:15:33,239
如果你看见了

449
00:15:33,241 --> 00:15:36,578
你就会明白 这个世界上最深的情

450
00:15:36,680 --> 00:15:38,458
从来不是生死相许

451
00:15:38,641 --> 00:15:40,618
这个世界上最深的情

452
00:15:40,800 --> 00:15:42,137
是一个清醒的人

453
00:15:42,200 --> 00:15:44,578
知道自己终将失去一切

454
00:15:44,680 --> 00:15:48,578
还依然愿意全心全意地去爱的那份敞开

455
00:15:49,080 --> 00:15:50,417
雁不懂这个

456
00:15:50,641 --> 00:15:51,997
元好问十六岁的时候

457
00:15:52,440 --> 00:15:53,777
也还没想明白

458
00:15:54,121 --> 00:15:54,838
但我相信

459
00:15:55,241 --> 00:15:57,377
他后来一定慢慢想明白了

460
00:15:57,641 --> 00:15:59,338
因为他后半生的重心

461
00:15:59,401 --> 00:16:01,537
已经不在儿女情长上了

462
00:16:01,840 --> 00:16:03,777
他去整理金朝的史料

463
00:16:03,960 --> 00:16:07,738
一个字一个字地把一个亡国的记忆抄下来

464
00:16:07,761 --> 00:16:08,818
留给后人

465
00:16:09,161 --> 00:16:10,118
那是另一种情

466
00:16:10,560 --> 00:16:12,058
一种更大的情

467
00:16:12,960 --> 00:16:13,517
那种情

468
00:16:14,001 --> 00:16:16,177
已经从执里走出来了

469
00:16:17,104 --> 00:16:17,622
这期视频

470
00:16:18,064 --> 00:16:19,801
我希望不是一期答案

471
00:16:19,905 --> 00:16:21,041
是一次启动

472
00:16:21,464 --> 00:16:23,541
启动你心里那个从小就问过

473
00:16:23,785 --> 00:16:27,462
被压抑了很久的那个问题 情到底是什么

474
00:16:27,944 --> 00:16:28,901
我到底是谁

475
00:16:29,464 --> 00:16:31,222
那个被情勾住的我

476
00:16:31,545 --> 00:16:32,342
又在哪里

477
00:16:33,650 --> 00:16:35,546
欢迎你在评论区告诉我

478
00:16:35,609 --> 00:16:38,327
你被这期视频勾起的第一个画面是什么

479
00:16:38,689 --> 00:16:39,886
是某一个具体的人

480
00:16:40,650 --> 00:16:41,886
某一个具体的夜晚

481
00:16:42,530 --> 00:16:45,046
还是某一种你至今说不清的感觉

482
00:16:45,609 --> 00:16:47,409
我看到的每一条留言

483
00:16:47,410 --> 00:16:50,467
都会当成一次跟你一起回头看的机会

484
00:16:50,729 --> 00:16:51,786
也告诉我

485
00:16:51,809 --> 00:16:55,426
下一期你最想让我聊什么样的修行故事

486
00:16:55,729 --> 00:16:56,447
我是王利杰

487
00:16:56,689 --> 00:16:57,864
我们下期见