1 00:00:00,427 --> 00:00:02,592 Committed to an asylum at 17 2 00:00:02,706 --> 00:00:04,591 She later healed the world 3 00:00:05,506 --> 00:00:06,011 1961 4 00:00:06,466 --> 00:00:09,032 Hartford, Connecticut, USA 5 00:00:09,227 --> 00:00:12,032 A 17-year-old girl was institutionalized 6 00:00:12,307 --> 00:00:14,432 She burned her wrists with cigarettes 7 00:00:14,506 --> 00:00:17,632 Cut her arms, legs, and stomach with blades 8 00:00:17,827 --> 00:00:20,152 She repeatedly tried to end her life 9 00:00:20,586 --> 00:00:23,071 Her discharge records stated 10 00:00:23,387 --> 00:00:25,065 During her 26-month stay 11 00:00:25,067 --> 00:00:27,506 For a considerable time 12 00:00:27,507 --> 00:00:29,591 She was the most unstable patient 13 00:00:29,946 --> 00:00:31,751 Her name was Marsha Linehan 14 00:00:32,868 --> 00:00:33,092 Hello 15 00:00:33,307 --> 00:00:33,773 Everyone 16 00:00:33,908 --> 00:00:34,832 I am Wang Lijie 17 00:00:34,987 --> 00:00:37,633 Today, through real-life stories 18 00:00:37,667 --> 00:00:41,033 I'll introduce a misunderstood disorder 19 00:00:41,148 --> 00:00:42,673 Borderline Personality Disorder 20 00:00:42,987 --> 00:00:44,746 You may not have heard the name 21 00:00:44,747 --> 00:00:46,633 But you've likely seen its shadow 22 00:00:46,948 --> 00:00:50,673 People called dramatic, extreme, or difficult 23 00:00:50,828 --> 00:00:53,052 Those who erupt like volcanoes in love 24 00:00:53,307 --> 00:00:55,313 Then retreat like glaciers 25 00:00:55,387 --> 00:00:59,592 Exhausting others while suffering the most 26 00:00:59,828 --> 00:01:01,033 Many of them 27 00:01:01,067 --> 00:01:03,033 May be experiencing this disorder 28 00:01:03,067 --> 00:01:04,792 Without even knowing it 29 00:01:06,006 --> 00:01:08,332 Back to Marsha Linehan's story 30 00:01:08,607 --> 00:01:11,211 While locked in Hartford Retreat 31 00:01:11,446 --> 00:01:14,571 Doctors tried every available method 32 00:01:14,806 --> 00:01:15,592 Electroshock therapy 33 00:01:15,967 --> 00:01:16,806 Cold water baths 34 00:01:16,806 --> 00:01:18,366 High doses of sedatives 35 00:01:18,366 --> 00:01:20,692 Even solitary confinement 36 00:01:21,047 --> 00:01:22,411 But nothing worked 37 00:01:22,806 --> 00:01:24,371 She only got worse 38 00:01:24,886 --> 00:01:25,752 In that era 39 00:01:26,086 --> 00:01:27,571 For patients like her 40 00:01:27,646 --> 00:01:30,771 The medical verdict was simple 41 00:01:30,847 --> 00:01:32,051 Incurable 42 00:01:32,717 --> 00:01:34,883 But after discharge, Marsha did something 43 00:01:34,958 --> 00:01:37,202 That changed her life forever 44 00:01:37,357 --> 00:01:39,603 She went to a Zen retreat 45 00:01:39,902 --> 00:01:40,447 There 46 00:01:40,742 --> 00:01:42,266 She encountered a concept 47 00:01:42,662 --> 00:01:43,406 Not resistance 48 00:01:43,861 --> 00:01:44,606 Not suppression 49 00:01:45,022 --> 00:01:46,106 But acceptance 50 00:01:46,542 --> 00:01:48,986 Radical, unconditional acceptance 51 00:01:49,421 --> 00:01:51,227 Whatever state you are in 52 00:01:51,302 --> 00:01:53,427 First acknowledge it as it is 53 00:01:53,621 --> 00:01:54,246 No judgment 54 00:01:54,662 --> 00:01:55,626 No escape 55 00:01:55,742 --> 00:01:57,867 No trying to change instantly 56 00:01:58,703 --> 00:02:01,828 This hit her like a lightning bolt 57 00:02:02,102 --> 00:02:02,768 She later said 58 00:02:03,063 --> 00:02:05,147 At that moment she understood 59 00:02:05,182 --> 00:02:06,768 Healing starts not with change 60 00:02:07,063 --> 00:02:08,027 But with acceptance 61 00:02:08,542 --> 00:02:09,988 Then comes change 62 00:02:10,263 --> 00:02:11,367 The order of these two words 63 00:02:11,663 --> 00:02:12,747 Determines everything 64 00:02:13,805 --> 00:02:16,691 Marsha became a psychology professor 65 00:02:16,805 --> 00:02:18,291 Spending decades 66 00:02:18,326 --> 00:02:21,525 Turning this into a therapy system 67 00:02:21,525 --> 00:02:23,451 Dialectical Behavior Therapy 68 00:02:23,606 --> 00:02:27,691 The most effective BPD treatment 69 00:02:27,726 --> 00:02:30,131 Saving countless lives worldwide 70 00:02:30,347 --> 00:02:33,232 But the most shocking part was 2011 71 00:02:33,706 --> 00:02:34,172 That year 72 00:02:34,586 --> 00:02:36,271 Marsha was 68 years old 73 00:02:36,547 --> 00:02:40,311 She gathered 300 people 74 00:02:40,347 --> 00:02:42,912 At the hospital where she was held 75 00:02:43,267 --> 00:02:44,852 And for the first time admitted 76 00:02:45,146 --> 00:02:45,831 She herself 77 00:02:45,947 --> 00:02:48,392 Had Borderline Personality Disorder 78 00:02:48,866 --> 00:02:49,952 The room went silent 79 00:02:50,533 --> 00:02:52,978 The once most unstable patient 80 00:02:53,013 --> 00:02:55,538 Became the world's leading expert 81 00:02:55,892 --> 00:02:57,698 She didn't hide her scars 82 00:02:58,253 --> 00:03:00,138 She turned them into medicine 83 00:03:00,772 --> 00:03:00,957 Now 84 00:03:01,332 --> 00:03:03,218 Let's zoom back out 85 00:03:03,253 --> 00:03:05,418 To see what this disorder really is 86 00:03:05,833 --> 00:03:07,078 First, a number 87 00:03:07,513 --> 00:03:09,825 About 1% to 6% of the world 88 00:03:09,825 --> 00:03:12,597 Is affected by BPD 89 00:03:12,953 --> 00:03:13,858 What does that mean 90 00:03:14,592 --> 00:03:16,578 How many contacts are in your phone 91 00:03:17,273 --> 00:03:17,817 Hundreds 92 00:03:18,432 --> 00:03:19,997 By conservative estimates 93 00:03:20,032 --> 00:03:23,317 Three to five may have this disorder 94 00:03:23,592 --> 00:03:24,798 You just don't know it 95 00:03:25,233 --> 00:03:26,537 They could be colleagues 96 00:03:26,953 --> 00:03:27,918 Neighbors 97 00:03:27,953 --> 00:03:28,617 Relatives 98 00:03:28,992 --> 00:03:30,437 Or even yourself 99 00:03:31,660 --> 00:03:32,285 And in China 100 00:03:32,660 --> 00:03:34,105 The situation is even more unique 101 00:03:34,339 --> 00:03:36,539 In our national mental disorder classification standards 102 00:03:36,540 --> 00:03:40,065 this diagnosis didn't exist for a long time 103 00:03:40,299 --> 00:03:41,939 Many patients went to hospitals 104 00:03:41,940 --> 00:03:45,458 and were diagnosed with depression, anxiety, or bipolar 105 00:03:45,459 --> 00:03:46,605 or even schizophrenia 106 00:03:46,940 --> 00:03:48,545 They struggled for years 107 00:03:48,579 --> 00:03:50,005 trying round after round of medication 108 00:03:50,260 --> 00:03:51,584 but the symptoms didn't match 109 00:03:51,739 --> 00:03:52,785 Until someone suggested 110 00:03:52,860 --> 00:03:55,265 checking for a personality disorder 111 00:03:56,169 --> 00:03:58,054 Imagine that feeling 112 00:03:58,568 --> 00:03:59,873 suffering for so many years 113 00:04:00,288 --> 00:04:02,133 with even the diagnosis being wrong 114 00:04:02,496 --> 00:04:03,781 Let me use an analogy 115 00:04:04,216 --> 00:04:06,341 Imagine your emotions as a thermostat 116 00:04:06,737 --> 00:04:09,982 A normal thermostat is set to a stable range 117 00:04:10,177 --> 00:04:11,322 When external temperatures change 118 00:04:11,536 --> 00:04:12,862 it adjusts automatically 119 00:04:12,936 --> 00:04:14,982 to keep you in a comfort zone 120 00:04:15,297 --> 00:04:18,462 But for BPD patients, the thermostat is broken 121 00:04:18,737 --> 00:04:20,062 Not completely broken 122 00:04:20,096 --> 00:04:22,182 but the sensitivity is set to the highest level 123 00:04:22,536 --> 00:04:23,841 If the outside temperature rises one degree 124 00:04:24,257 --> 00:04:25,861 they feel like it rose ten 125 00:04:26,337 --> 00:04:27,582 If it drops one degree 126 00:04:27,656 --> 00:04:29,421 they feel like they've been thrown into an ice cellar 127 00:04:30,469 --> 00:04:31,514 This isn't just a metaphor 128 00:04:31,909 --> 00:04:34,353 This is actually happening in the brain 129 00:04:34,685 --> 00:04:37,950 A 2023 brain imaging study published in 130 00:04:38,005 --> 00:04:41,043 European Archives of Psychiatry and Clinical Neuroscience 131 00:04:41,044 --> 00:04:43,450 found that in BPD patients, the amygdala 132 00:04:43,644 --> 00:04:46,969 the core area for emotional response 133 00:04:47,044 --> 00:04:48,570 is significantly smaller in volume 134 00:04:48,844 --> 00:04:49,349 Meanwhile 135 00:04:49,644 --> 00:04:50,690 their insula 136 00:04:50,805 --> 00:04:53,969 the area responsible for sensing internal states 137 00:04:54,084 --> 00:04:56,409 also has a significantly thinner cortex 138 00:04:56,685 --> 00:04:57,849 More importantly 139 00:04:57,925 --> 00:05:01,649 the connection between the amygdala and prefrontal cortex is impaired 140 00:05:02,875 --> 00:05:05,120 The prefrontal cortex is your rational brake 141 00:05:05,435 --> 00:05:07,721 The amygdala is your emotional accelerator 142 00:05:08,036 --> 00:05:09,500 When a normal person hits the gas 143 00:05:09,915 --> 00:05:11,321 the brakes still work 144 00:05:11,795 --> 00:05:15,321 But for BPD patients, the brake line is cut 145 00:05:15,675 --> 00:05:16,581 The gas is floored 146 00:05:16,915 --> 00:05:18,120 and the brakes won't hold 147 00:05:19,084 --> 00:05:21,490 So it's not that they don't want to control emotions 148 00:05:21,925 --> 00:05:24,449 It's that the brain's hardware at that moment 149 00:05:24,565 --> 00:05:26,370 physically cannot control them 150 00:05:26,885 --> 00:05:28,149 This point is very important 151 00:05:28,445 --> 00:05:29,529 Let me repeat 152 00:05:30,084 --> 00:05:32,930 BPD is not a character flaw 153 00:05:33,084 --> 00:05:34,289 It is not a moral issue 154 00:05:34,565 --> 00:05:35,469 It is not just being stubborn 155 00:05:35,925 --> 00:05:36,769 It is not being dramatic 156 00:05:37,524 --> 00:05:41,490 It is a structural failure in the brain's emotional regulation 157 00:05:42,087 --> 00:05:43,452 But in real life 158 00:05:43,527 --> 00:05:45,407 The greatest harm they suffer 159 00:05:45,407 --> 00:05:47,412 Often comes not from the illness itself 160 00:05:48,008 --> 00:05:49,253 But from misunderstanding 161 00:05:49,888 --> 00:05:51,092 "You're too sensitive" 162 00:05:51,448 --> 00:05:52,573 "Why are you so dramatic?" 163 00:05:53,207 --> 00:05:54,652 "Can you stop making a scene?" 164 00:05:55,207 --> 00:05:56,652 "You're just controlling me" 165 00:05:57,087 --> 00:05:58,892 "Look at others, no one is like you" 166 00:05:59,527 --> 00:06:01,532 Every word is like a knife 167 00:06:01,688 --> 00:06:04,412 Stabbing someone already covered in wounds 168 00:06:05,231 --> 00:06:07,875 The core fear of BPD 169 00:06:07,950 --> 00:06:09,075 Is abandonment 170 00:06:09,351 --> 00:06:12,875 Not just a normal fear of breakups or losing friends 171 00:06:13,310 --> 00:06:15,635 But a fear that reaches the bone marrow 172 00:06:15,830 --> 00:06:18,236 How intense is this fear? 173 00:06:18,351 --> 00:06:20,916 Even if a reply is ten minutes late 174 00:06:21,031 --> 00:06:24,156 Their brain enters full crisis mode 175 00:06:24,510 --> 00:06:25,416 "They don't love me anymore" 176 00:06:25,630 --> 00:06:26,950 "They're going to leave me" 177 00:06:26,950 --> 00:06:28,356 "I'm being discarded again" 178 00:06:28,739 --> 00:06:32,583 Then they do things that seem bizarre to others 179 00:06:32,778 --> 00:06:36,124 Constant calls, message bombing, emotional breakdowns 180 00:06:36,538 --> 00:06:40,544 Even self-harm to check if the other person still cares 181 00:06:40,939 --> 00:06:42,663 These actions are not manipulation 182 00:06:43,059 --> 00:06:45,463 It is a drowning person clutching at straws 183 00:06:46,471 --> 00:06:50,237 A 2026 study in a clinical journal noted 184 00:06:50,432 --> 00:06:54,357 BPD emotional dysregulation has three core dimensions 185 00:06:54,511 --> 00:06:58,636 Impulsivity, lack of awareness, and emotional blurring 186 00:06:58,951 --> 00:06:59,857 Pay attention to the last one 187 00:07:00,151 --> 00:07:01,677 Emotional blurring 188 00:07:01,951 --> 00:07:04,037 It means they don't have too many emotions 189 00:07:04,151 --> 00:07:06,677 But they can't tell what they are feeling 190 00:07:06,951 --> 00:07:10,076 Anger, fear, sadness, shame 191 00:07:10,232 --> 00:07:13,196 These boil inside them like a pot of soup 192 00:07:13,471 --> 00:07:16,437 But they can't say what's in the pot 193 00:07:17,410 --> 00:07:17,996 If they can't say it 194 00:07:18,371 --> 00:07:19,415 They can't process it 195 00:07:19,811 --> 00:07:20,696 If they can't process it 196 00:07:20,771 --> 00:07:23,016 They release it in the most primitive ways 197 00:07:23,410 --> 00:07:24,035 Cutting themselves 198 00:07:24,490 --> 00:07:24,915 Breaking things 199 00:07:25,530 --> 00:07:26,316 Binge eating 200 00:07:26,771 --> 00:07:27,456 Alcohol abuse 201 00:07:27,811 --> 00:07:29,415 This isn't a choice they make 202 00:07:29,610 --> 00:07:32,256 It's an emotional pressure cooker without a valve 203 00:07:32,290 --> 00:07:33,175 It can only explode 204 00:07:34,241 --> 00:07:36,205 There's another fact many don't know 205 00:07:36,361 --> 00:07:37,806 Extensive research shows 206 00:07:37,881 --> 00:07:41,686 BPD is strongly linked to childhood trauma 207 00:07:41,881 --> 00:07:44,566 A 2023 study clearly states 208 00:07:44,761 --> 00:07:47,746 Childhood emotional abuse is a key predictor 209 00:07:47,761 --> 00:07:50,126 of developing this disorder in adulthood 210 00:07:50,561 --> 00:07:51,225 It's not just physical abuse 211 00:07:51,520 --> 00:07:52,225 It's not just neglect 212 00:07:52,520 --> 00:07:53,725 It's emotional abuse 213 00:07:54,001 --> 00:07:54,986 What is emotional abuse 214 00:07:55,480 --> 00:07:58,446 It's when a child needs to be seen 215 00:07:58,520 --> 00:07:59,566 But is instead invalidated 216 00:08:00,187 --> 00:08:01,672 "Your feelings don't matter" 217 00:08:02,066 --> 00:08:03,711 "You shouldn't feel this way" 218 00:08:04,146 --> 00:08:05,432 "Why are you so difficult" 219 00:08:05,987 --> 00:08:08,992 These words are seeds in a child's brain 220 00:08:09,227 --> 00:08:12,112 Growing into an emotional wasteland 20 years later 221 00:08:12,812 --> 00:08:14,298 Let me tell you another story 222 00:08:14,613 --> 00:08:15,617 In 2017 223 00:08:15,692 --> 00:08:18,038 Comedian Pete Davidson went public 224 00:08:18,053 --> 00:08:21,338 About his BPD diagnosis 225 00:08:21,572 --> 00:08:24,697 He was a regular on Saturday Night Live 226 00:08:24,812 --> 00:08:26,937 The biggest comedy stage in America 227 00:08:27,213 --> 00:08:28,372 To outsiders 228 00:08:28,372 --> 00:08:31,257 He was young and at his career peak 229 00:08:31,332 --> 00:08:32,858 What could he be suffering from 230 00:08:33,053 --> 00:08:33,838 But Pete said 231 00:08:34,332 --> 00:08:36,452 For over a year before diagnosis 232 00:08:36,452 --> 00:08:38,098 He had frequent sudden breakdowns 233 00:08:38,213 --> 00:08:41,218 And afterwards, he couldn't remember a thing 234 00:08:41,492 --> 00:08:43,537 He first went to rehab 235 00:08:43,573 --> 00:08:45,218 Thinking it was a marijuana problem 236 00:08:45,573 --> 00:08:46,358 He quit for three months 237 00:08:46,652 --> 00:08:47,818 But nothing improved 238 00:08:48,532 --> 00:08:50,377 Then a psychiatrist told him 239 00:08:50,412 --> 00:08:51,858 "It's not an addiction problem" 240 00:08:51,973 --> 00:08:53,818 "You have BPD" 241 00:08:54,819 --> 00:08:57,584 On SNL's Weekend Update 242 00:08:57,618 --> 00:08:59,743 In front of the entire nation, he said 243 00:08:59,858 --> 00:09:01,903 "I have BPD" 244 00:09:02,098 --> 00:09:03,103 Then he added 245 00:09:03,179 --> 00:09:06,223 "Depression affects 16 million people" 246 00:09:06,378 --> 00:09:07,403 "There is no cure" 247 00:09:07,819 --> 00:09:09,503 "But treatment helps" 248 00:09:09,658 --> 00:09:10,363 "Go see a doctor" 249 00:09:10,738 --> 00:09:11,743 "Talk about medication" 250 00:09:11,939 --> 00:09:12,964 A comedian 251 00:09:13,299 --> 00:09:14,824 On the grandest stage 252 00:09:14,858 --> 00:09:16,344 To tear off one's mask 253 00:09:16,498 --> 00:09:18,263 Takes immense courage 254 00:09:18,618 --> 00:09:20,424 Another story worth telling 255 00:09:21,347 --> 00:09:22,913 Brandon Marshall 256 00:09:23,028 --> 00:09:26,112 NFL star wide receiver 257 00:09:26,308 --> 00:09:27,427 In 2011 258 00:09:27,428 --> 00:09:30,653 He became the first athlete in the big four 259 00:09:30,668 --> 00:09:34,273 To admit to Borderline Personality Disorder 260 00:09:34,668 --> 00:09:35,293 Before that 261 00:09:35,627 --> 00:09:37,273 He was known for his temper 262 00:09:37,467 --> 00:09:39,433 Fighting teammates on the field 263 00:09:39,467 --> 00:09:41,073 Smashing things in the locker room 264 00:09:41,188 --> 00:09:43,752 Constantly in off-field controversies 265 00:09:44,107 --> 00:09:45,573 Everyone called him a jerk 266 00:09:45,908 --> 00:09:46,786 A troublemaker 267 00:09:46,788 --> 00:09:48,193 A locker room cancer 268 00:09:48,507 --> 00:09:49,252 But after diagnosis 269 00:09:49,851 --> 00:09:51,537 He entered McLean Hospital 270 00:09:51,611 --> 00:09:54,096 Spent three months learning emotional control 271 00:09:54,331 --> 00:09:56,056 Afterward, he said something powerful 272 00:09:56,331 --> 00:09:58,216 I used to think I was a bad person 273 00:09:58,611 --> 00:09:59,596 Now I know 274 00:09:59,892 --> 00:10:01,456 I am a sick person 275 00:10:01,851 --> 00:10:04,017 There is a world of difference 276 00:10:04,571 --> 00:10:06,336 Between being bad and being sick 277 00:10:06,691 --> 00:10:07,356 This distinction 278 00:10:07,731 --> 00:10:09,696 Is the starting point of understanding 279 00:10:10,491 --> 00:10:11,917 So, is it treatable? 280 00:10:12,412 --> 00:10:13,376 The answer is yes 281 00:10:13,692 --> 00:10:16,376 And more effective than many think 282 00:10:16,771 --> 00:10:19,736 Marsha Linehan's DBT therapy 283 00:10:19,932 --> 00:10:23,976 Centered on Zen-inspired dialectics 284 00:10:24,131 --> 00:10:26,057 Simultaneous acceptance and change 285 00:10:26,412 --> 00:10:27,516 You are in pain right now 286 00:10:27,771 --> 00:10:28,396 That is true 287 00:10:28,611 --> 00:10:29,457 I accept it 288 00:10:29,634 --> 00:10:30,433 At the same time 289 00:10:30,452 --> 00:10:33,931 You can learn new ways to cope 290 00:10:33,932 --> 00:10:35,016 That is also true 291 00:10:35,172 --> 00:10:36,817 These are not contradictory 292 00:10:37,052 --> 00:10:38,937 They must both be true 293 00:10:39,317 --> 00:10:42,250 A 2022 study in Psychotherapy 294 00:10:42,250 --> 00:10:45,403 And Psychosomatics found 295 00:10:45,638 --> 00:10:48,523 Even six months of DBT 296 00:10:48,638 --> 00:10:51,842 Is as effective as a full year 297 00:10:52,118 --> 00:10:54,363 A two-year follow-up showed 298 00:10:54,478 --> 00:10:56,282 The results are lasting 299 00:10:56,518 --> 00:10:58,082 Self-harm decreased 300 00:10:58,118 --> 00:11:00,082 Emotional regulation improved 301 00:11:00,118 --> 00:11:02,442 Overall mental symptoms are improving 302 00:11:02,837 --> 00:11:05,523 One detail in this study moved me 303 00:11:05,670 --> 00:11:06,756 Researchers found that 304 00:11:06,830 --> 00:11:10,876 Patients exploring emotions early in therapy 305 00:11:11,111 --> 00:11:13,195 Had the best results after 8-10 months 306 00:11:13,511 --> 00:11:17,155 Those who developed emotional flexibility 307 00:11:17,271 --> 00:11:20,876 Switching easily between emotional states 308 00:11:21,030 --> 00:11:23,195 Saw the most significant relief in depression 309 00:11:23,670 --> 00:11:25,455 Another term left a deep impression 310 00:11:25,830 --> 00:11:26,876 Self-compassion 311 00:11:27,231 --> 00:11:28,236 The study found that 312 00:11:28,271 --> 00:11:31,150 Patients showing self-compassion mid-therapy 313 00:11:31,150 --> 00:11:32,955 Achieved the best final outcomes 314 00:11:33,271 --> 00:11:33,856 In other words 315 00:11:34,231 --> 00:11:35,870 Being gentle with yourself 316 00:11:35,871 --> 00:11:36,535 Is not just fluff 317 00:11:36,830 --> 00:11:37,829 Is not weakness 318 00:11:37,830 --> 00:11:41,315 But a clinically proven healing mechanism 319 00:11:42,029 --> 00:11:46,034 A 2023 brain imaging study proved this 320 00:11:46,189 --> 00:11:47,314 Researchers found that 321 00:11:47,429 --> 00:11:49,875 After 10 weeks of DBT therapy 322 00:11:50,029 --> 00:11:54,674 Distorted emotional space in the amygdala 323 00:11:54,710 --> 00:11:56,314 Actually returned to normal 324 00:11:56,429 --> 00:12:00,314 Measurable structural changes occurred 325 00:12:00,669 --> 00:12:02,394 The brain can be repaired 326 00:12:02,669 --> 00:12:05,235 The thermostat can be recalibrated 327 00:12:05,549 --> 00:12:09,674 I previously discussed depression and suicide 328 00:12:10,550 --> 00:12:12,795 That was about the brain's chemical tsunami 329 00:12:13,190 --> 00:12:14,954 This time I want to go deeper 330 00:12:15,390 --> 00:12:17,834 BPD is different from depression 331 00:12:18,229 --> 00:12:20,795 Depression is like a mute button 332 00:12:20,949 --> 00:12:22,474 Everything is gray and dull 333 00:12:22,709 --> 00:12:27,155 BPD is like the brain on full-noise mode 334 00:12:27,430 --> 00:12:29,594 Every signal is amplified tenfold 335 00:12:29,989 --> 00:12:32,035 The quiet and the noisy 336 00:12:32,229 --> 00:12:33,714 Suffer in different ways 337 00:12:33,790 --> 00:12:35,874 But the level of pain is the same 338 00:12:36,109 --> 00:12:39,795 To those with such friends or family 339 00:12:40,649 --> 00:12:43,254 You don't need to fully understand them 340 00:12:43,409 --> 00:12:45,054 Just remember one thing 341 00:12:45,409 --> 00:12:49,693 When they seem to be acting out 342 00:12:50,009 --> 00:12:54,093 Their brain is in an uncontrollable storm 343 00:12:54,529 --> 00:12:56,973 You don't need to rush in to fight it 344 00:12:57,328 --> 00:12:58,593 You just need to stand there 345 00:12:58,968 --> 00:13:00,054 Let them know 346 00:13:00,248 --> 00:13:01,353 After the storm passes 347 00:13:01,809 --> 00:13:02,654 You are still there 348 00:13:03,009 --> 00:13:03,973 That is enough 349 00:13:04,328 --> 00:13:07,813 Marsha Linehan proved one thing 350 00:13:08,690 --> 00:13:09,635 The deepest wounds 351 00:13:09,930 --> 00:13:12,295 It can become the most powerful medicine 352 00:13:12,731 --> 00:13:15,175 Not because wounds heal themselves 353 00:13:15,290 --> 00:13:15,915 But because 354 00:13:16,170 --> 00:13:18,496 When you truly cross that darkness 355 00:13:18,571 --> 00:13:21,696 You gain something no one else can give you 356 00:13:22,130 --> 00:13:23,655 You know how long the tunnel is 357 00:13:23,810 --> 00:13:25,496 You know the shape of the tunnel 358 00:13:25,571 --> 00:13:27,096 You know where the curves are 359 00:13:27,211 --> 00:13:27,996 Most importantly 360 00:13:28,290 --> 00:13:29,775 You know there is an exit 361 00:13:30,170 --> 00:13:33,496 At 68, she returned to that asylum 362 00:13:33,576 --> 00:13:34,701 Facing everyone 363 00:13:34,735 --> 00:13:35,900 She said those words 364 00:13:36,177 --> 00:13:36,977 Yes 365 00:13:37,056 --> 00:13:40,301 I was the most unstable patient here 366 00:13:40,936 --> 00:13:42,701 She wasn't showing off scars 367 00:13:43,095 --> 00:13:45,941 She was telling those still in the tunnel 368 00:13:46,095 --> 00:13:47,181 The exit exists 369 00:13:47,576 --> 00:13:48,740 I made it out 370 00:13:48,936 --> 00:13:49,941 You can too 371 00:13:50,375 --> 00:13:51,801 Do you know anyone like this 372 00:13:52,416 --> 00:13:54,201 Have you ever misunderstood them 373 00:13:54,816 --> 00:13:56,100 Or perhaps yourself 374 00:13:56,296 --> 00:14:00,000 Ever feel your emotional thermostat failed 375 00:14:00,655 --> 00:14:02,260 Let's talk in the comments 376 00:14:02,336 --> 00:14:04,014 Every honest story you share 377 00:14:04,015 --> 00:14:06,661 Could help someone in the dark 378 00:14:06,975 --> 00:14:07,720 I am Wang Lijie 379 00:14:08,015 --> 00:14:08,922 See you next time