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范蠡三次散尽家财

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因为他从来没拿起过

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最近有个观众给我转发了一个视频

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讲的是陶朱公范蠡临终前

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给子孙留了三个人生高能量场域

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第一个

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独坐大山

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吸取天地能量

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第二个

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拜访高人

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提升认知

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第三个

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走访市集

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与人间共鸣

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他问我

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这是真的吗

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我去查了一圈

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史记 查了

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吴越春秋 查了

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国语 也翻了

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坦白说

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我找不到这段话的出处

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能量场这个词本身就很现代

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春秋时候不可能有这个说法

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所以大概率

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这不是范蠡说的

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但是呢

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我看完这三句话之后愣了一下

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因为它说的那个东西

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虽然出处可疑

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内容本身是有道理的

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心情不好的时候

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去山里坐一坐

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去找一个比你看得远的人聊一聊

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或者去菜市场 去早市

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去人群里走一走

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你真的能活过来

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我自己就深有体会

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所以今天我想借这个话头

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不去辩论这段话是真是假

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而是聊一个更有意思的问题

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范蠡这个人

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到底在修什么

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哈喽

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大家好

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我是王利杰

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范蠡的故事你可能听过

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春秋末年

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他帮越王勾践灭掉了吴国

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从公元前四九四年勾践在会稽山战败

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到公元前四七三年吴国灭亡

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整整二十一年

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这二十一年他做了什么

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他和文种一起给勾践出谋划策

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忍辱负重

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卧薪尝胆

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他甚至跟着勾践一起去吴国当过人质

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在那段最屈辱的日子里

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范蠡是贴身陪着勾践走过来的

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等到大功告成的那一天

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他做了一件所有人都意想不到的事

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他走了

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不是告老还乡的那种走

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是改名换姓

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自称鸱夷子皮

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带着家人坐上一条小船

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泛舟而去

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消失了

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走之前

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他给自己的搭档文种写了一封信

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信里有一句话

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后来成了中国历史上最著名的政治预言之一

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飞鸟尽

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良弓藏

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狡兔死

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走狗烹

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意思是

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鸟打光了

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弓就该收起来了

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兔子跑完了

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猎狗就该被煮了

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他看穿了勾践

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勾践这个人

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能共患难

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不能共富贵

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你陪他趴在泥里的时候

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他需要你

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等他站起来了

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你就是他的威胁

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文种收到了这封信

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请注意

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文种不是一个蠢人

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他和范蠡一起策划了灭吴的全部方案

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智商和谋略不在范蠡之下

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他看了这封信

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完全看得懂

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但他没走

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为什么

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这是我觉得范蠡故事里最值得拆的一个问题

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不是范蠡为什么能走

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而是文种为什么走不了

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因为两个人的差别

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不在智商

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你想想文种当时的处境

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他跟着勾践干了二十年

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从最屈辱的阶段一路熬过来

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终于等到了翻盘的一天

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灭吴之后

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他是越国最大的功臣之一

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位极人臣

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这时候有人告诉他

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你该走了

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他走得了吗

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先别急着回答当然走得了

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你先问自己一个问题

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如果你在一家公司干了二十年

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从最底层干到合伙人

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CXO

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公司终于上市了

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有人对你说

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你该辞职了

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不辞职老板会搞你

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你辞不辞

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大部分人辞不了

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不是不想辞

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是辞不动

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因为那二十年不只是时间的投入

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它变成了你是谁

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你的身份 你的社会关系

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你的自我认知

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全部长在了那个位置上

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让你离开那个位置

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等于让你把自己拆掉

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你试试现在想象一下

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把你名片上的头衔删掉

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把你朋友圈里的身份标签全部抹掉

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感觉到胸口那一紧了吗

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那个紧

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就是文种当时的感觉

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心理学管这个叫身份固着

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一个人在某个角色里待得越久

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投入越深

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这个角色就越容易和他的自我融合到一起

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到最后他分不清

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是我在做这件事

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还是这件事就是我

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文种的问题就在这里

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他不是不知道危险

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他知道

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范蠡把话说得那么明白

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他不可能不知道

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但知道归知道

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走归走

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知道是大脑前额叶的事

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走是整个身份系统的事

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他的二十年投入

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在他心里已经结晶成了一个故事

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我是那个帮勾践翻盘的人

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这个故事太完美了

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太有分量了

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让他放弃这个故事

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比让他放弃生命还难

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所以他留下来了

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后来的结果你知道了

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勾践赐给文种一把剑

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不是随便一把剑

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是属镂之剑

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就是当年逼死伍子胥的那把

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勾践对文种说

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你当初教我伐吴七术

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我只用了三术就灭了吴国

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剩下四术

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你到地下去替我试试吧

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文种拿着那把剑

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自杀了

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你看这把剑的来历

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伍子胥是因为太忠被赐死

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文种也是因为太忠被赐死

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同一把剑

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杀了两个功臣

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勾践用这把剑不是随便选的

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是在告诉你

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功臣的命运就是这样

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你看

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他到死都在那个角色里

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他甚至没有像范蠡那样质疑过一次

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我非得是这个角色吗

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现在回过头来看范蠡

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范蠡为什么能走

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表面上看

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是因为他聪明

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能预判勾践的为人

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但这个解释不够

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因为文种也聪明

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文种也能预判

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两个人拿到的信息是一样的

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得出的结论也是一样的

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勾践不可共富贵

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差别在于

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一个走得动

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一个走不动

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走得动的那个人

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身上有一种东西

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不是智商

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不是勇气

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而是一种我找不到更好的词来形容的东西

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他对自己的身份不粘

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范蠡在越国是谋士

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走了之后到齐国海边

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改名叫鸱夷子皮

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从种地开始干起

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没几年就赚到了数十万家产

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齐人听说了他的贤名

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直接请他去做相国

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他干了一段时间

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叹了口气说

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在家能致千金

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做官能到卿相

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这对一个布衣来说已经是极限了

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久受尊名不是好事

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然后他交还了相印

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把钱分了

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又走了

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后来他到了陶地

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就是今天的山东定陶

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再一次白手起家

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再一次成了当地首富

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成了首富之后呢

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散财

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把钱分给穷人和远房亲戚

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然后又赚回来

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然后又散出去

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司马迁在 史记 里说

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十九年之中三致千金

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后人把他这一生概括成四个字

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三聚三散

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中国历史上再找不出第二个人这么干

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大多数人把这个故事读成急流勇退的智慧

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或者乐善好施的品格

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但我觉得这两个解释都太浅了

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一个人偶尔大方一次

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你可以说他慷慨

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但一个人反复赚钱 反复散光

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反复从零开始

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这不是慷慨

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这是某种训练

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他在练什么

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他在练不粘

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你想想看

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第一次散财

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也许还有犹豫

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第二次

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可能容易了一点

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第三次

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也许已经毫不费力了

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不是因为他不在乎钱

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能三次成为首富的人

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显然极其懂得经营

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而是因为他搞清楚了一件事

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钱是流过他手里的水

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不是长在他身上的肉

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谋士的身份也是水

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相国的头衔也是水

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越国功臣的光环也是水

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水流过来

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他认真经营

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水流走了

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他松手

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这就是他和文种最根本的区别

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文种把水冻成了冰

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焊死在自己身上

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范蠡让水一直是水

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现在你再回头看那个三个高能量场域的说法

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虽然出处可疑

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但你会发现它暗合了范蠡一生的轨迹

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山

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他泛舟五湖

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隐居山水之间

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不是去吸收能量

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而是在山水间把身上沾的角色一层层洗掉

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你去爬过山的人都知道

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到了山顶那一刻

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你脑子里那些公司的事 家里的事

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谁得罪了你的事

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全部变轻了

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不是山给了你什么能量

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是山把你身上多余的东西拿走了

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人

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他一生遇到过几个关键的人

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最重要的是计然

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教他经商之道的老师

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司马迁说范蠡用计然之术治产

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就是把计然的经济理论用于商业实践

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但更重要的是

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他在勾践身上学到了最深刻的一课

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权力会让一个人变成另一个人

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这一课不是任何书能教你的

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是他贴身观察了二十年

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用文种的命为代价验证出来的

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市集

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他三次在市井中白手起家

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市集不是名利场

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是人性实验室

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在街头做生意的时候

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人的贪婪 精明 善良 算计

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全部裸露在外面

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一个在市集里赚过钱又散过钱的人

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对人性的理解

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比任何哲学家都深

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所以那个视频说的三个场域

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虽然不是范蠡的原话

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但用来回看范蠡的一生

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还真是一面不错的镜子

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不过我想补一个那个视频没说的东西

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那三个场域

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山也好

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人也好

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市集也好

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对范蠡来说都不是充电桩

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他不是心情不好了去山里充充电

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精力恢复了再回来拼搏

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他去哪里都不是为了获得什么

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他去山里

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是因为上一个角色演完了

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他需要一个地方把那身戏服脱掉

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他进市集

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是因为脱完了之后还得过日子

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就重新进入一个新的角色

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但这一次他知道了

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这身衣服穿着好看

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但不是我的皮

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这就是为什么他散财散得那么干脆

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那些钱不是他的皮

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是他穿着玩的衣服

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衣服旧了

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送人

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再买一件新的穿穿

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你有没有注意到

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我们大多数人的痛苦

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恰恰来自于把衣服当成了皮

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你的职位是衣服

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你的存款是衣服

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你的学历是衣服

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别人对你的评价是衣服

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但你穿久了

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你觉得脱不下来了

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你觉得脱了就没有我了

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文种就是这么死的

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他宁可带着那件衣服去死

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也不肯光着身子活

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而范蠡光着身子活了三次

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每次都重新穿上新衣服

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每次都穿得很好看

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但他知道哪个是衣服

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哪个是自己

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佛学里有个词叫无我所

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不是说你什么都不能有

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而是说你有的那些东西

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没有一样是你

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范蠡大概不懂佛学

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他比佛法传入中国早了几百年

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但他用一辈子的行为

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活出了这三个字

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我有时候想

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范蠡最厉害的地方

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不是他懂得什么时候该走

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而是他走的时候不疼

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你辞职的时候疼吗

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你分手的时候疼吗

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你把辛苦赚的钱花出去的时候心疼吗

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如果疼

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说明那个东西已经长进你的肉里了

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拔出来当然疼

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范蠡不疼

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不是因为他冷血

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三次把全部家产分给穷人的人

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不可能是冷血的人

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他不疼

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是因为他从来没让那些东西长进过肉里

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它们一直在皮肤外面

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拿起来

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放下去

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来去自如

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所以你问我

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范蠡到底在修什么

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他修的不是如何放下

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他修的是如何不拿起

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这两个东西差别巨大

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如何放下

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意味着你已经抓住了

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然后要掰开自己的手指

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这很痛苦

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也很累

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而如何不拿起

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意味着你从一开始就知道

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它可以流过你

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但不必属于你

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你认真经营它

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但不认为它是你的

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你全力以赴

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但随时可以松手

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这是一种非常高级的活法

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说实话

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我做不到

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但我觉得

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哪怕只是知道有这么一种活法存在

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都会让我们的手指松一松

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最后说一个我一直在想的问题

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范蠡离开越国的时候

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据说带走了西施

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两个人泛舟五湖

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从此不知所终

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这是最浪漫的版本

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但也有史料说

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西施在灭吴之后被沉江了

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还有人说她被勾践收入了后宫

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到底哪个是真的

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我不知道

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但如果范蠡真的没能带走西施

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那他在勾践身边不只学到了权力会改变一个人这一课

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他可能还学到了更惨痛的一课

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有些代价

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清醒的人也付不起

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他一生不粘任何角色

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唯独在西施这件事上

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我们不确定他是否做到了彻底的不粘

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也许

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这才是他最真实的地方

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修行到最后

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不是变成一个没有感情的人

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而是带着感情活着

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但不被感情困住

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范蠡也许做到了不被权力困住

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不被财富困住

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不被名声困住

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但面对一个真正爱过的人

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他能不能也做到

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这个问题

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史书没给答案

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也许它本来就不该有答案

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你觉得呢

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我是王利杰

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我们下期见