1 00:00:00,400 --> 00:00:02,433 Buddha left his wife and children overnight 2 00:00:02,433 --> 00:00:04,700 The truth he saw was not what you think 3 00:00:05,300 --> 00:00:07,366 Sakyamuni was 29 years old 4 00:00:07,400 --> 00:00:10,566 Did something that is unjustifiable in all worldly morality 5 00:00:11,300 --> 00:00:13,233 He left his wife, who had just given birth to a son. 6 00:00:13,933 --> 00:00:15,433 Sneak up in the middle of the night 7 00:00:15,433 --> 00:00:19,433 He glanced at the sleeping Yasodhara and the swaddling Rahula 8 00:00:19,466 --> 00:00:20,966 Turn around and walk out of the palace 9 00:00:20,966 --> 00:00:22,266 Never looked back 10 00:00:22,900 --> 00:00:26,000 The story is told in the Buddhist tradition as the great renunciation. 11 00:00:26,533 --> 00:00:27,900 But calm down and think about it 12 00:00:27,900 --> 00:00:29,333 According to Confucian standards 13 00:00:29,366 --> 00:00:30,866 This is blatantly irresponsible. 14 00:00:31,433 --> 00:00:32,366 A Man 15 00:00:32,400 --> 00:00:33,733 Wife just had a baby 16 00:00:33,733 --> 00:00:34,466 Just go. 17 00:00:35,100 --> 00:00:36,700 And here's what's interesting. 18 00:00:36,700 --> 00:00:39,533 After he became a Buddha, he returned to Kapilavastu 19 00:00:39,800 --> 00:00:42,166 The first thing is not to repair the relationship 20 00:00:42,200 --> 00:00:44,000 Instead, he made his son a monk 21 00:00:44,833 --> 00:00:47,566 Yasodhara later became a monk as well 22 00:00:48,166 --> 00:00:49,166 The entire family. 23 00:00:49,166 --> 00:00:51,566 Husband, wife, son 24 00:00:51,600 --> 00:00:52,866 All entered the Sangha 25 00:00:53,466 --> 00:00:54,066 Hello 26 00:00:54,100 --> 00:00:54,966 Hello. 27 00:00:54,966 --> 00:00:55,666 I am Wang Lijie 28 00:00:56,400 --> 00:00:57,966 Many people tell the story of the Buddha 29 00:00:58,000 --> 00:00:59,366 It stops here. 30 00:00:59,366 --> 00:01:01,366 Said it was the happy ending of the whole family's enlightenment 31 00:01:02,133 --> 00:01:03,733 But every time I read this 32 00:01:03,733 --> 00:01:05,433 I had a question that wouldn't go away. 33 00:01:06,300 --> 00:01:07,200 Why is that? 34 00:01:07,333 --> 00:01:10,200 Why is the standard action of the enlightened person to leave the family? 35 00:01:10,333 --> 00:01:12,666 Why did the Buddha teach the Dharma for 45 years? 36 00:01:12,666 --> 00:01:17,600 There's very little positive, warm, positive discourse about relationships. 37 00:01:17,700 --> 00:01:20,433 Why is it that in his admonition to all monks 38 00:01:20,466 --> 00:01:23,200 More vigilant of the opposite sex than money or power 39 00:01:23,366 --> 00:01:25,166 Reputation vigilance is much harsher. 40 00:01:25,866 --> 00:01:29,233 If you just attribute this to the ascetic culture of ancient Indian society 41 00:01:29,733 --> 00:01:31,100 Then you underestimate the Buddha 42 00:01:31,933 --> 00:01:34,533 Buddha didn't leave home because of his era 43 00:01:34,566 --> 00:01:37,733 He saw a truth that he didn't even dare to speak directly 44 00:01:38,500 --> 00:01:41,933 This truth involves the underlying mechanisms of gender relations 45 00:01:41,933 --> 00:01:46,000 When it comes to the family, what is the structure at the alaya level? 46 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:46,700 47 00:01:46,700 --> 00:01:50,633 It involves why the deepest love in the world often turns into the deepest entanglement 48 00:01:51,300 --> 00:01:52,333 Today's issue 49 00:01:52,333 --> 00:01:54,166 We don't talk about love chicken soup 50 00:01:54,166 --> 00:01:58,600 I don't talk about the folk interpretation of looking back 500 times in the past life and passing by in this life 51 00:01:59,366 --> 00:02:01,833 We go straight to the heart of Buddhism. 52 00:02:01,833 --> 00:02:05,566 Cognitive science with the seed theory of consciousness-only and predictive coding 53 00:02:06,266 --> 00:02:08,333 The causal model of common karma 54 00:02:08,333 --> 00:02:10,866 The relationship and family work 55 00:02:10,866 --> 00:02:12,100 Take it apart from the bottom 56 00:02:12,766 --> 00:02:14,300 Let me ask you a question 57 00:02:14,300 --> 00:02:15,533 You don't have to answer 58 00:02:15,533 --> 00:02:17,033 But be honest in your heart. 59 00:02:17,400 --> 00:02:18,233 What do you think? 60 00:02:18,233 --> 00:02:20,966 What is the root cause of your love for your significant other? 61 00:02:21,100 --> 00:02:22,733 It's because the other person is good-looking. 62 00:02:22,900 --> 00:02:23,966 get along well 63 00:02:24,166 --> 00:02:25,100 Three views 64 00:02:25,266 --> 00:02:26,566 soul fit 65 00:02:26,700 --> 00:02:28,466 Or because you are destined 66 00:02:29,133 --> 00:02:31,933 Most people are going to choose one of those. 67 00:02:31,933 --> 00:02:33,600 Then I feel at ease 68 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:34,700 I understand love 69 00:02:35,566 --> 00:02:36,866 But the Buddha's answer 70 00:02:36,866 --> 00:02:38,300 Might make you fidget 71 00:02:38,933 --> 00:02:41,166 There is a very cold observation in consciousness-only 72 00:02:41,866 --> 00:02:43,566 The so-called love 73 00:02:43,566 --> 00:02:47,300 Essentially the mutual activation of specific seeds in the alaya consciousness of two people 74 00:02:48,233 --> 00:02:50,033 Pay attention to the words I use 75 00:02:50,066 --> 00:02:51,200 Is activation 76 00:02:51,200 --> 00:02:52,466 Not induction 77 00:02:52,466 --> 00:02:53,600 Not soul resonance 78 00:02:54,633 --> 00:02:56,600 I talked about Alaya knowledge in my previous video. 79 00:02:57,300 --> 00:03:00,866 It's the seed storehouse at the bottom of your conscious system. 80 00:03:00,900 --> 00:03:02,666 Store your life 81 00:03:02,666 --> 00:03:05,033 According to Buddhism, it is the infinite world 82 00:03:05,066 --> 00:03:06,466 The imprint left by all experiences 83 00:03:07,366 --> 00:03:10,800 These seeds are activated under certain causal conditions 84 00:03:10,800 --> 00:03:14,033 Emerge into your current feelings, emotions, judgments 85 00:03:14,933 --> 00:03:17,633 It works for everything. 86 00:03:17,633 --> 00:03:18,266 Including love. 87 00:03:19,033 --> 00:03:22,066 You think you're in love with someone because she's just different 88 00:03:22,066 --> 00:03:23,600 But consciousness-only learning tells you 89 00:03:23,633 --> 00:03:25,433 Here's what really happened. 90 00:03:26,166 --> 00:03:27,266 This specific person 91 00:03:27,266 --> 00:03:29,066 The shape of her face, the tone of her voice 92 00:03:29,566 --> 00:03:33,200 A certain smell on her body, the way she handled conflict 93 00:03:33,200 --> 00:03:35,033 These external characteristics serve as a precondition 94 00:03:35,066 --> 00:03:37,600 Accurately hit some cause in your alaya consciousness 95 00:03:38,366 --> 00:03:42,233 It could be a moment when your mother put you to sleep when you were three 96 00:03:42,266 --> 00:03:46,800 It may be a certain image from the summer when your heart first moved when you were sixteen 97 00:03:46,800 --> 00:03:48,433 It could be deeper, earlier. 98 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:51,500 Seed patterns that you're not even aware of. 99 00:03:52,600 --> 00:03:54,500 These seeds are activated by her 100 00:03:54,500 --> 00:03:56,833 Instantly emerge from the experience of heartbeat 101 00:03:56,866 --> 00:03:58,733 So you thought you were in love with her 102 00:03:59,466 --> 00:04:00,800 If you change someone 103 00:04:00,800 --> 00:04:02,800 Activates another set of seeds 104 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:04,333 Another feeling emerges 105 00:04:04,866 --> 00:04:06,100 Maybe it's annoying. 106 00:04:06,100 --> 00:04:07,366 Maybe insensitive 107 00:04:07,400 --> 00:04:08,300 Maybe friendship 108 00:04:09,266 --> 00:04:10,166 Same You 109 00:04:10,200 --> 00:04:11,600 Meet different people 110 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:13,900 A completely different self will emerge 111 00:04:14,633 --> 00:04:16,300 Sounds cold, doesn't it? 112 00:04:16,400 --> 00:04:17,066 I see. 113 00:04:17,100 --> 00:04:18,600 But we keep going down. 114 00:04:18,600 --> 00:04:21,000 You will find that behind the cold is true sobriety 115 00:04:21,666 --> 00:04:24,366 Why does consciousness-only learning look at gender relations in this way? 116 00:04:24,466 --> 00:04:27,900 Because it solves a paradox that all people in love encounter 117 00:04:28,666 --> 00:04:30,466 Why did I once love someone so much? 118 00:04:30,466 --> 00:04:33,333 Today will become the one I dislike the most 119 00:04:33,466 --> 00:04:35,666 Why the honeymoon period must pass 120 00:04:35,766 --> 00:04:38,233 Why has it been difficult to pass through the sea? 121 00:04:38,233 --> 00:04:41,300 No matter how nice the people you meet later feel something is wrong 122 00:04:41,466 --> 00:04:45,500 These phenomena cannot be explained by personality differences or fading passions 123 00:04:46,233 --> 00:04:47,900 But using predictive coding theory 124 00:04:47,933 --> 00:04:49,400 Can be explained 125 00:04:50,166 --> 00:04:52,700 I talked about predictive coding in detail in the meditation issue before 126 00:04:53,466 --> 00:04:56,000 Your brain is not passive. 127 00:04:56,033 --> 00:04:58,400 It generates predictions top down first 128 00:04:58,433 --> 00:05:00,433 And we use sensory data to calibrate the errors. 129 00:05:00,966 --> 00:05:03,366 The higher the precision weight of the prior belief 130 00:05:03,400 --> 00:05:04,733 The harder it is for you to be corrected by reality 131 00:05:05,533 --> 00:05:07,933 What happened in the early stages of a relationship? 132 00:05:08,100 --> 00:05:12,100 Your brain assigns a very high prior label to this person. 133 00:05:12,133 --> 00:05:13,400 She is my destiny 134 00:05:14,200 --> 00:05:15,966 Once this label is attached 135 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:18,933 You will automatically block all information that contradicts this label. 136 00:05:19,900 --> 00:05:20,900 She was late. 137 00:05:21,000 --> 00:05:21,766 It's because she's dedicated 138 00:05:22,566 --> 00:05:23,566 She speaks quickly 139 00:05:23,700 --> 00:05:24,500 Because she was forthright 140 00:05:25,300 --> 00:05:26,466 She doesn't like to talk 141 00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:27,600 Because she has meaning 142 00:05:29,400 --> 00:05:32,766 All negative signals are automatically suppressed by your brain 143 00:05:32,800 --> 00:05:34,166 Because they conflict with a priori 144 00:05:34,866 --> 00:05:37,800 The honeymoon period is when the mechanism works best 145 00:05:38,433 --> 00:05:40,266 What you see is not the real her. 146 00:05:40,300 --> 00:05:43,533 Your brain made her up based on a priori predestined 147 00:05:44,266 --> 00:05:46,100 But this mechanism has a fatal flaw 148 00:05:46,800 --> 00:05:49,033 Prediction errors don't go away forever 149 00:05:49,066 --> 00:05:49,700 It will accumulate 150 00:05:50,333 --> 00:05:53,466 The discrepancy between who she really is and who she is in your head 151 00:05:53,500 --> 00:05:54,433 Increasing every day 152 00:05:55,233 --> 00:05:56,266 One Day 153 00:05:56,266 --> 00:05:58,366 The cumulative amount exceeds a certain threshold 154 00:05:58,366 --> 00:06:01,433 Your brain suddenly collapses to update the weights. 155 00:06:01,466 --> 00:06:02,866 A sentence popped into my heart 156 00:06:02,900 --> 00:06:04,000 That's who she is 157 00:06:04,666 --> 00:06:05,466 That moment. 158 00:06:05,466 --> 00:06:06,366 The honeymoon period is over 159 00:06:07,233 --> 00:06:08,866 You look at the same face 160 00:06:08,866 --> 00:06:11,300 But I can't see anything that moved you in the first place 161 00:06:12,500 --> 00:06:13,800 It's not that she has changed 162 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:16,933 It's the one in your brain that was made up by your brain and she dissipated 163 00:06:17,900 --> 00:06:18,500 The rest. 164 00:06:18,500 --> 00:06:21,366 It's real, it's mundane, it's flawed. 165 00:06:21,500 --> 00:06:23,300 Another person who is not a perfect match for you 166 00:06:24,066 --> 00:06:27,066 This is why the Buddha was so vigilant about gender relations 167 00:06:27,666 --> 00:06:29,966 He's not arguing against human emotion. 168 00:06:30,000 --> 00:06:31,333 He's telling you something 169 00:06:32,166 --> 00:06:34,166 You think you love that person 170 00:06:34,166 --> 00:06:37,800 In fact, what you love is the activated seed in your Alaya consciousness 171 00:06:37,800 --> 00:06:39,300 Plus the stories your brain makes up 172 00:06:40,100 --> 00:06:42,200 When the seed activation pattern changes 173 00:06:42,233 --> 00:06:43,666 When the story collapses 174 00:06:43,666 --> 00:06:45,700 The love you thought was gone in an instant 175 00:06:46,700 --> 00:06:48,166 It's not a tragedy. 176 00:06:48,166 --> 00:06:48,866 This is the mechanism. 177 00:06:49,666 --> 00:06:53,833 Any relationship based on seed activation plus brain replenishment 178 00:06:53,833 --> 00:06:55,300 Are destined to come to this day 179 00:06:56,100 --> 00:06:56,800 So much for that. 180 00:06:56,833 --> 00:06:58,166 I have to stop. 181 00:06:58,166 --> 00:06:59,733 Break a misconception that has spread too widely 182 00:07:00,466 --> 00:07:02,033 A lot of people talk about relationships 183 00:07:02,033 --> 00:07:02,833 Like to say a word 184 00:07:03,700 --> 00:07:05,433 Husband and wife are a fate cultivated in a previous life 185 00:07:06,100 --> 00:07:07,933 And that's beautiful. 186 00:07:07,966 --> 00:07:10,900 But it has a logical place to steal the concept 187 00:07:10,900 --> 00:07:12,366 It has to be cut. 188 00:07:12,633 --> 00:07:14,266 The version that many people understand is this 189 00:07:15,466 --> 00:07:17,233 You saved his life in a previous life 190 00:07:17,233 --> 00:07:19,066 In this life he came to repay his kindness 191 00:07:19,066 --> 00:07:20,366 So you are married 192 00:07:21,233 --> 00:07:23,466 Or you owe him a debt in a previous life 193 00:07:23,500 --> 00:07:24,833 In this life he came to collect debts 194 00:07:25,266 --> 00:07:27,233 So marriage tortures each other for a lifetime 195 00:07:27,966 --> 00:07:30,166 Sounds like a complete cause-and-effect story 196 00:07:30,166 --> 00:07:31,000 Okay? 197 00:07:31,133 --> 00:07:32,166 What's the problem? 198 00:07:32,666 --> 00:07:35,800 The problem is that it interprets fate as a fateful arrangement 199 00:07:36,433 --> 00:07:38,733 It's like there's a god with the ledger 200 00:07:38,766 --> 00:07:40,600 Arrange who you must marry for the rest of your life 201 00:07:41,366 --> 00:07:42,533 This is not Buddhism 202 00:07:42,533 --> 00:07:44,066 This is a folk interpretation 203 00:07:45,033 --> 00:07:46,233 The Buddha's preaching 204 00:07:46,233 --> 00:07:47,200 Is karma 205 00:07:47,233 --> 00:07:48,233 Is conditional aggregation 206 00:07:49,166 --> 00:07:52,333 In a past life, you had a deep karmic intersection with someone 207 00:07:52,333 --> 00:07:56,666 It may have walked together, suffered together, and planted similar seeds together 208 00:07:57,433 --> 00:08:00,266 These seeds leave patterns in the Alaya mind 209 00:08:01,233 --> 00:08:04,166 In this life, when you meet at some point in time and space 210 00:08:04,166 --> 00:08:06,800 Similar seeds are activated by each other 211 00:08:06,833 --> 00:08:09,933 And that creates a strong sense of familiarity and attraction. 212 00:08:10,800 --> 00:08:11,600 Notice the difference 213 00:08:12,366 --> 00:08:15,000 It's not that someone arranged for you to be together 214 00:08:15,033 --> 00:08:18,133 Rather, your seed patterns have a high probability of activating each other 215 00:08:19,166 --> 00:08:20,766 The former is fatalism 216 00:08:20,766 --> 00:08:22,000 The latter is probability theory 217 00:08:23,333 --> 00:08:24,700 The former you can only accept your fate 218 00:08:24,733 --> 00:08:27,333 In the latter, you have room to actively choose and practice 219 00:08:28,066 --> 00:08:30,033 Why is this distinction so important? 220 00:08:30,100 --> 00:08:31,800 Because if you believe in fatalism 221 00:08:31,866 --> 00:08:34,733 You feel like all the pain in a marriage is paying off a debt 222 00:08:34,766 --> 00:08:35,666 Just grit your teeth and bear it 223 00:08:36,366 --> 00:08:38,233 But if you see it as probability theory 224 00:08:38,233 --> 00:08:39,766 You will find one thing 225 00:08:39,800 --> 00:08:41,000 Seeds can be replanted 226 00:08:41,633 --> 00:08:45,833 Every reaction you made to significant others today, every avoidance, every word 227 00:08:45,833 --> 00:08:48,066 Have smoked new seeds in Alaya consciousness 228 00:08:48,866 --> 00:08:52,366 These new seeds either reinforce existing patterns of entanglement 229 00:08:52,366 --> 00:08:54,133 Or create new possibilities 230 00:08:55,066 --> 00:08:58,700 A family is not a debt repayment scene where you can leave when you pay off your debts 231 00:08:59,500 --> 00:09:02,733 It is an ashram where you actively plant new seeds every day 232 00:09:03,600 --> 00:09:04,700 Understand this layer 233 00:09:04,733 --> 00:09:07,500 We can really get to the heart of the issue 234 00:09:07,533 --> 00:09:08,466 Common Industry 235 00:09:09,033 --> 00:09:10,966 Communism is a very misleading concept 236 00:09:11,766 --> 00:09:14,533 Many people understand it as collective karma 237 00:09:14,533 --> 00:09:17,633 A group of people bound together to share a destiny 238 00:09:18,433 --> 00:09:20,366 That's not entirely wrong. 239 00:09:20,366 --> 00:09:22,266 But it misses the most crucial kinetics 240 00:09:23,233 --> 00:09:25,266 What is the true mechanism of communism? 241 00:09:25,500 --> 00:09:27,300 It is the seed of Alaya consciousness 242 00:09:27,300 --> 00:09:30,000 They will contaminate each other in long-term coexistence 243 00:09:30,500 --> 00:09:31,266 Between husband and wife 244 00:09:31,300 --> 00:09:33,633 Living in the same space for a long time 245 00:09:33,633 --> 00:09:34,866 Eat the same meal 246 00:09:34,900 --> 00:09:36,866 Affected by the same climate 247 00:09:36,866 --> 00:09:39,100 Surrounded by the same family and friends 248 00:09:39,100 --> 00:09:41,100 Dealing with the same financial pressures 249 00:09:41,700 --> 00:09:43,966 It's not just physical sharing. 250 00:09:43,966 --> 00:09:46,833 It is the cross-contamination of the seeds of Alaya consciousness 251 00:09:47,300 --> 00:09:49,866 The way you speak will be learned by the other party 252 00:09:49,866 --> 00:09:52,400 The other person's fear becomes your fear 253 00:09:52,433 --> 00:09:54,900 His obsession will activate your obsession 254 00:09:54,933 --> 00:09:56,466 Your anxiety will infect him 255 00:09:57,366 --> 00:09:58,333 For example 256 00:09:58,600 --> 00:10:00,333 Two formerly independent lakes 257 00:10:00,366 --> 00:10:02,600 Dig a canal to connect them 258 00:10:02,866 --> 00:10:05,200 The water quality on both sides is different at first 259 00:10:05,233 --> 00:10:06,300 But over time 260 00:10:06,333 --> 00:10:07,500 inevitable convergence 261 00:10:07,733 --> 00:10:09,433 Dirty will pollute 262 00:10:09,433 --> 00:10:11,233 The net will also dilute the dirty 263 00:10:11,466 --> 00:10:12,833 What's the result? 264 00:10:13,066 --> 00:10:15,800 The water quality of the two lakes will converge to a common state 265 00:10:16,500 --> 00:10:17,600 That's communism. 266 00:10:18,000 --> 00:10:20,300 The family is the canal 267 00:10:20,900 --> 00:10:23,333 The essence of marriage is not a physical union 268 00:10:23,333 --> 00:10:26,266 It was the seeds of Alaya consciousness that began to infect each other on a large scale 269 00:10:26,933 --> 00:10:29,333 Your subconscious is starting to resemble 270 00:10:29,500 --> 00:10:32,166 This is why couples grow more alike over time 271 00:10:32,366 --> 00:10:33,600 It's not that the face shape has changed 272 00:10:33,600 --> 00:10:36,233 It is after the convergence of seed patterns of Alaya consciousness 273 00:10:36,266 --> 00:10:40,400 The explicit micro-expressions, tone, and posture are all assimilated 274 00:10:40,733 --> 00:10:42,833 The deepest level of community is children 275 00:10:43,166 --> 00:10:45,033 From the moment of conception 276 00:10:45,066 --> 00:10:47,833 It was nurtured in the seed fields of parents. 277 00:10:48,300 --> 00:10:52,233 Every mood swing, every anxiety or joy of a mother's pregnancy 278 00:10:52,433 --> 00:10:55,400 Every piece of music I've heard and every argument I've had 279 00:10:55,433 --> 00:10:58,066 Are shaping the seeds of this new life 280 00:10:58,266 --> 00:10:59,466 After birth 281 00:10:59,466 --> 00:11:04,333 The first three years are the critical period for the seeds of Alaya consciousness to be deeply instilled by the parental model 282 00:11:04,733 --> 00:11:08,033 How parents handle conflict, how parents perceive money 283 00:11:08,633 --> 00:11:10,533 Parents' reactions to strangers 284 00:11:10,533 --> 00:11:12,633 These are not taught to children through language 285 00:11:12,866 --> 00:11:16,766 It is infected into the child's alaya consciousness through the daily state 286 00:11:16,966 --> 00:11:19,133 So the deepest truth about family life 287 00:11:19,133 --> 00:11:21,000 It's not just you and your significant other 288 00:11:21,400 --> 00:11:23,600 You're in your significant other seed field 289 00:11:23,600 --> 00:11:25,166 The seeds for nurturing the next generation 290 00:11:25,466 --> 00:11:28,266 Your every unresolved emotional pattern today 291 00:11:28,266 --> 00:11:30,366 All in a way you can't see 292 00:11:30,400 --> 00:11:31,733 Pass it on to your children 293 00:11:32,000 --> 00:11:33,633 It sounds heavy 294 00:11:33,666 --> 00:11:35,766 But this is what's really important. 295 00:11:36,033 --> 00:11:40,033 Precisely because the family is the field where the seeds of Alaya consciousness are most intertwined 296 00:11:40,033 --> 00:11:42,233 It is also the most powerful dojo for spiritual practice 297 00:11:42,633 --> 00:11:44,766 If your goal is just inner peace 298 00:11:44,766 --> 00:11:46,733 The easiest way is to become a monk 299 00:11:47,066 --> 00:11:48,500 Find a clean environment 300 00:11:48,533 --> 00:11:49,866 Stay away from all distractions 301 00:11:49,866 --> 00:11:50,966 Concentrate on meditation 302 00:11:51,533 --> 00:11:52,766 This is the path the Buddha took 303 00:11:53,433 --> 00:11:57,266 But if your goal is to remain awake despite the deepest entanglements 304 00:11:57,766 --> 00:11:59,833 That family is the most difficult training ground 305 00:12:00,400 --> 00:12:01,300 Why is that? 306 00:12:01,400 --> 00:12:06,166 Because all relationships in the family are precisely the seeds of your deepest Alaya knowledge 307 00:12:06,633 --> 00:12:08,166 Your significant other habit 308 00:12:08,166 --> 00:12:12,200 It can instantly activate the picture of your parents making you the most uncomfortable in your childhood 309 00:12:12,800 --> 00:12:14,400 Your child's reaction 310 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:18,666 Can instantly awaken all the emotions you have been suppressed by your original family 311 00:12:18,966 --> 00:12:21,400 These activations happen every day. 312 00:12:21,400 --> 00:12:22,733 You can't hide 313 00:12:23,200 --> 00:12:25,200 There are no tests in the pure mountains and forests 314 00:12:25,200 --> 00:12:26,333 All at home 315 00:12:26,633 --> 00:12:28,100 But the other way around. 316 00:12:28,100 --> 00:12:30,333 Opportunities for dredging that are not available in the clean mountains and forests 317 00:12:30,366 --> 00:12:31,800 They have it all. 318 00:12:32,033 --> 00:12:34,366 Every time you have a significant other 319 00:12:34,366 --> 00:12:35,900 If you could stop for a second 320 00:12:35,900 --> 00:12:39,133 See what this reaction is, the seed is activated. 321 00:12:39,166 --> 00:12:40,200 That second 322 00:12:40,233 --> 00:12:42,000 You're loosening that seed. 323 00:12:42,133 --> 00:12:45,033 Every time you lose control of your child 324 00:12:45,033 --> 00:12:47,033 If you could look back in hindsight 325 00:12:47,033 --> 00:12:51,333 See this loss of control coming from old patterns that your own Alaya mind has not dealt with 326 00:12:51,666 --> 00:12:53,000 The one who sees itself 327 00:12:53,033 --> 00:12:55,433 Just cutting the chain that it continues to pass 328 00:12:55,700 --> 00:12:59,133 The beauty of coworking is not that it ties you to death 329 00:12:59,133 --> 00:13:01,066 It gives you a mirror. 330 00:13:01,066 --> 00:13:05,400 Let you see the seeds in your alaya consciousness that you didn't even know existed 331 00:13:05,633 --> 00:13:06,433 see 332 00:13:06,466 --> 00:13:08,033 It's all about spiritual practice. 333 00:13:08,300 --> 00:13:09,666 Now you understand. 334 00:13:09,666 --> 00:13:12,466 Why did the Buddha leave his wife and children to become a monk? 335 00:13:12,533 --> 00:13:14,266 Not because of bad family 336 00:13:14,266 --> 00:13:16,300 It's because 2,500 years ago 337 00:13:16,500 --> 00:13:18,866 At that particular stage of his enlightenment 338 00:13:18,866 --> 00:13:21,766 He needs to completely get out of the attractive force field of the common industry 339 00:13:21,800 --> 00:13:24,400 To understand the underlying mechanism of consciousness 340 00:13:24,700 --> 00:13:27,933 He has to first go to an environment where there is no seed activation at all 341 00:13:27,966 --> 00:13:30,100 To stably observe the mechanism itself 342 00:13:30,866 --> 00:13:32,600 But please note one detail 343 00:13:32,633 --> 00:13:33,833 After he became a Buddha 344 00:13:33,833 --> 00:13:35,533 It doesn't deny the family. 345 00:13:35,633 --> 00:13:37,033 He returned to his native country 346 00:13:37,066 --> 00:13:40,100 Let his son and wife also follow the path of spiritual practice 347 00:13:40,500 --> 00:13:42,433 He didn't say the family was wrong 348 00:13:42,466 --> 00:13:43,566 Here's what he said. 349 00:13:43,566 --> 00:13:46,366 There is a deeper spiritual possibility within the family 350 00:13:46,966 --> 00:13:50,866 He took the path of becoming a monk first, attaining enlightenment, and then turning back 351 00:13:51,266 --> 00:13:54,333 But the method he left for the lay practitioner is equally complete 352 00:13:54,866 --> 00:13:57,333 Then Buddhism developed a very important tradition 353 00:13:57,400 --> 00:13:58,466 Lay Buddhism 354 00:13:58,933 --> 00:14:01,066 Homeschooling is no longer considered inferior 355 00:14:01,266 --> 00:14:03,966 Vimalakirti is a great man who teaches the Dharma with illness 356 00:14:03,966 --> 00:14:06,266 The Pang family of four are all enlightened 357 00:14:06,533 --> 00:14:08,133 They prove it with their lives 358 00:14:08,133 --> 00:14:09,966 Family is not an obstacle to spiritual practice 359 00:14:10,300 --> 00:14:11,800 Is another form of spiritual practice 360 00:14:12,600 --> 00:14:13,366 So much for that. 361 00:14:13,400 --> 00:14:15,166 Let me take this issue 362 00:14:15,700 --> 00:14:17,733 The Buddha's attitude towards gender relations 363 00:14:17,733 --> 00:14:20,033 Never a simple objection or approval 364 00:14:20,233 --> 00:14:22,200 What he saw was a mechanism. 365 00:14:22,666 --> 00:14:26,833 Human love is essentially the mutual activation of the seeds of Alaya consciousness 366 00:14:26,866 --> 00:14:29,366 It's a story that the brain makes up based on a priori 367 00:14:29,633 --> 00:14:31,666 There's nothing wrong with the mechanism. 368 00:14:31,700 --> 00:14:34,166 What's wrong is you don't know it exists. 369 00:14:34,333 --> 00:14:35,800 Take hallucinations seriously 370 00:14:35,800 --> 00:14:37,500 Activation as eternity 371 00:14:37,733 --> 00:14:39,166 Make up your brain as destiny 372 00:14:39,533 --> 00:14:42,166 Family business is not a curse of fate 373 00:14:42,166 --> 00:14:45,733 It is a training ground where the seeds of Alaya consciousness are contaminated with each other on a large scale 374 00:14:46,133 --> 00:14:50,200 Two formerly separate seed lakes were connected to a canal through marriage 375 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:51,633 They're bound to converge. 376 00:14:52,200 --> 00:14:54,733 This convergence is the deepest test of spiritual practice 377 00:14:54,766 --> 00:14:56,166 It is also the deepest opportunity 378 00:14:56,466 --> 00:14:57,966 So here's the real problem. 379 00:14:58,200 --> 00:14:59,633 Between you and your significant other 380 00:14:59,933 --> 00:15:01,133 The person you saw 381 00:15:01,133 --> 00:15:02,866 Is it the real him? 382 00:15:02,900 --> 00:15:06,966 Or the story that emerged after your alaya seed was activated 383 00:15:07,066 --> 00:15:09,866 Every emotional reaction you have in a family relationship 384 00:15:09,900 --> 00:15:12,266 What is the reality of the moment driving? 385 00:15:12,266 --> 00:15:15,800 Or is an unresolved pattern from your childhood repeating itself? 386 00:15:15,900 --> 00:15:19,800 If you can really take this problem into your own life 387 00:15:19,800 --> 00:15:21,066 Even if it's just for a week 388 00:15:21,400 --> 00:15:24,900 Your significant other, your children, your parents 389 00:15:24,900 --> 00:15:27,066 Changes you can't imagine 390 00:15:27,333 --> 00:15:28,766 This issue comes to an end here 391 00:15:28,800 --> 00:15:30,500 I'd love to hear your thoughts. 392 00:15:30,766 --> 00:15:33,100 What do you think about the Buddha leaving home? 393 00:15:33,233 --> 00:15:35,633 You are in your own marriage or intimate relationship 394 00:15:35,633 --> 00:15:40,000 Have you ever had one of those moments where I suddenly realized that it wasn't the person I loved? 395 00:15:40,233 --> 00:15:42,000 Welcome to let me know in the comment area. 396 00:15:42,433 --> 00:15:44,433 What topic would you like to hear in the next issue? 397 00:15:44,433 --> 00:15:46,066 You can also leave a message to tell me. 398 00:15:46,433 --> 00:15:48,666 I just want to leave you with one final question. 399 00:15:48,766 --> 00:15:52,633 If the love between two people is essentially the mutual activation of seeds 400 00:15:52,633 --> 00:15:53,966 So think about it. 401 00:15:54,000 --> 00:15:56,666 When your love for someone is truly gone 402 00:15:56,666 --> 00:15:58,000 Because he has changed 403 00:15:58,033 --> 00:16:01,766 Or because of the seed in your Alaya consciousness that activated him? 404 00:16:01,766 --> 00:16:03,566 You've used it up yourself. 405 00:16:04,066 --> 00:16:05,133 This question 406 00:16:05,133 --> 00:16:06,833 We'll save it for the next issue. 407 00:16:07,066 --> 00:16:08,266 I am Wang Lijie 408 00:16:08,300 --> 00:16:09,233 See you next time.