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看完苏乞儿那一期

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他发了一份51页的文档给我

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封面四个字：存在的意义

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前几天他把这份文件发给我

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附了一句话

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王老师

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看完您讲苏乞儿那期

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我想把我自己的故事告诉您

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这两年我经历了什么

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我又是怎么从那个废墟里

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把自己一点一点抠出来的

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哈喽大家好

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我是王利杰

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为了保护他的身份

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今天我把所有可能识别他的细节都做了模糊处理

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这是一个真实的中年人

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在他人生最黑那两年

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怎么用禅宗的几个核心概念

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把自己和他至亲的家从地狱里拽出来的实操记录

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我读完这份文档

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心里一直在重复他写在最后的那一句话

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原来

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并不是我去救他们

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而我恰恰是被救的那个

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好

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故事开始

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那两年

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他中年危机

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事业下行

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记忆衰退

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认知能力下降

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身体也开始出毛病

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个人财富一夜缩水大半

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好多比特币被卷走

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一笔不小的借款收不回来

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紧接着

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他从一个有存款的人

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变成了背着一笔不轻的债的人

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他扑了整整一年精力心血的一个事业项目

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最后落个鸡飞蛋打

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所有人都觉得他是傻X

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包括他自己

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但他写

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如果只是钱和事业的崩塌

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他还撑得住

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真正把他打穿底的

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不是他自己

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是他家

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简单说

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他有一位至亲

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那一年陷入了一场灾难性的婚姻

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甚至影响了孩子

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导致她和孩子每天闹着不想活了

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你能想象一个母亲和一个十几岁的孩子

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在同一个家庭群里互相说我要去死吗

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孩子在网上查的

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是几楼跳下去可以马上死

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是割腕要割哪个部位

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三个人互相伤害

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母亲压垮孩子

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孩子又压垮母亲

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那个不负责任的丈夫在外面继续制造新的烂摊子

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每一天他都在接电话

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她又要跳楼了

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她今早又割腕了

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医生让你过来一趟

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白天他托关系找精神科专家

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找心理咨询师

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跟学校老师沟通

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晚上一个人躺在床上

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眼睛盯着天花板

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问自己

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这个世界为什么这么荒谬

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人怎么可以这么坏

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人性为什么这么自私

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他写

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那段时间

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我几乎陷入抑郁

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我不知道该怎么理解这个荒谬的世界

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我不知道该怎么解救我家人

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我不知道存在的价值和意义到底是什么

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这是他文档前半部分的底色

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不是一个文艺中年的人生感慨

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是一个真的被生活逼到墙角

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晚上闭眼会出现亲人吊在房梁上画面的人

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写下来的

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走投无路的时候

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人都会去找一个解释

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一个能让为什么是我这件事勉强可以被理解的框架

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那么

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他先去了哪里呢

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他先去研究了命理

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他那段时间

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把自己的

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他至亲的

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他至亲那个孩子的命盘全部排了一遍

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然后开始拿这些盘去验证

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验证过去三十年发生在他和他家人身上每一件大事

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文档里他贴了不少跟一位命理师的微信对话截图

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某某年是不是出过什么事

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某某年是不是有牢狱

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某某年是不是有病灾

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所有他觉得隐秘的

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外人不可能知道的家族大事

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都被命盘一一对中

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他写

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那一刻我以为我看见了世界的真相

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但这恰恰是他被打到更深一层的开始

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因为如果命运是天定的

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如果一个人从出生那一刻起

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几十年的剧本就已经在那张盘里写完了

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那存在还有什么意义

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仅仅是知道自己将要撞上苦难

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却什么都做不了

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眼睁睁地看着它发生

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这不就是地狱吗

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难道我们的命运真的是天定的吗

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如果真的是这样

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我们存在还有什么意义呢

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人就是在这种走不通的时刻

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命才会推他换一条路

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他换的那条路

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是禅宗

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具体地说

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是一个朋友推了他一段六祖坛经视频

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他一开始没认真看

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后来失眠的某个夜里

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他点开了

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然后第一次接触到那两个让他后来彻底翻盘的概念

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一个叫末那识

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一个叫阿赖耶识

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我的老观众听到这两个词应该不会陌生

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我之前几期专门讲过唯识学

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我尽量简单地说一遍

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给第一次听的朋友

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我们平时说我的时候

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那个我的感觉

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根本不是凭空生出来的

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它有两个发动机

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下面那个发动机叫阿赖耶识

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它是一个仓库

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你这辈子

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你父母这辈子

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你祖辈这辈子

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甚至往前推得更远

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所有的经历

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情绪

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念头

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伤害

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爱

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都以一种叫种子的形式

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存进了这个仓库

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它不是你大脑里某根神经元

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它是你这个生命整体携带的一份压缩文件

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上面那个发动机

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叫末那识

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它的工作很单纯

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但很狠

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它二十四小时不停地

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从下面那个仓库里

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挑跟我有关的种子

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往你当下这个意识里塞

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它在告诉你

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这是我的伤害

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这是我的委屈

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这是我对你的不满

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这是我的判断

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我不能错

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我必须赢

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那家伙凭什么

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听上去像两台机器

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对吧

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是

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但这两台机器的可怕之处在于

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它们是个闭环

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末那识从阿赖耶识里调取关于我的故事

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同一时刻

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它调取这个动作本身

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又把新的我的种子

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熏回到阿赖耶识里去了

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这是他在邮件里写给我的一句私信原话

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我念给你听

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我执是因为阿赖耶识的污染

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末那识不断从阿赖耶识中调取关于我的故事

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又反过来影响当下的末那识

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为什么我执这么难破

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它不是一个简单的念头

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它是一个自我加强的循环

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你越把我挂在嘴上

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仓库里我的种子就越多

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仓库里我的种子越多

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下次起念第一个被调取出来的

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必然又是我

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它不需要你刻意去想

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它自己会跑

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所以人到中年

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最深的那个痛苦是什么

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不是没钱

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不是没爱

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是你发现

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你脑子里大部分时间播放的

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全是关于我的剧本

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我被亏待

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我被辜负

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我做了那么多没人看见

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我凭什么

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这些剧本一遍一遍上演

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每一遍都让你更难放下那个被冒犯的我

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苏乞儿那一期我们讲过

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那条命运绞索勒在脖子上的时候

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他是被外境一刀一刀剐掉那个我的

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这位粉丝呢

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他是被他的家人

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被他至亲的痛苦

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一遍一遍放进绞索里的

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两条路都通向同一个地方

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但都得走过去

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接下来他写的部分

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是这份文档里我最想念给大家听的

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他听六祖坛经

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听到一个段子

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教授有一次被人请去给一对新人做婚礼致辞

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他喝了点酒

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临时上去

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张口就说了一句

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你们是夫妻

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既非夫妻

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是名夫妻

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全场哗然

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意思大概是

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你们今天是夫妻

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但你们其实又不是夫妻

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你们只是有夫妻的名义而已

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一句话差点把婚礼搅了

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教授带的一个博士生赶紧上去救场

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说

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王老师的意思是

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你们今天的结合

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是各种因缘条件碰撞出来的

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这是缘起

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但一旦走进婚姻

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你们就要面对柴米油盐和生活给的一切烦恼

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你们要知道

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今天之前你们不是夫妻

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一百年之后你们也不是夫妻

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正是因为这种无常

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你们才要更珍惜在这个世界相遇的每一刻

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不要被烦恼和口角困住

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用心去体会心里的爱

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并且把它表达出来

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这是性空

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我们带着因果来到这个无常的世界

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去爱

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不要被业障蒙了心

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他文档里把这三句话单独放了一页

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是用蓝色的

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加粗的字写的

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我们带着因果

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来到这个无常的世界

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这是"缘起"

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去爱

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这是"性"

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不要被业障蒙了心

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这是"空"

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他说

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那一刻他突然懂了

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他原本以为禅宗是要他放空

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要他什么都不要

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什么都不爱

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但这位教授告诉他

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不是

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真正的空

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不是空掉爱

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是空掉那些遮住爱的污垢

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爱本身

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是不能空的

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爱是每个人本自具足的

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它只是被业障盖住了

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像太阳被乌云盖住

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性空不是把太阳灭掉

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性空是扬弃乌云

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他说

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他终于哭出来了

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但真正把他击穿的那一刻

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还没到

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某一天他出差

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在高铁上戴着耳机听许巍

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听到了许巍2012年那张

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<此时此刻>专辑里的一首歌

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叫空谷幽兰

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这首歌是许巍致敬弘一法师写的

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他在终南山住了一段时间

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写了整整一年

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歌里有一句词

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一念净心

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花开遍世界

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他写

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那一瞬间

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我顿悟了

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我不知道你们怎么理解顿悟两个字

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我自己以前也以为顿悟是要打坐多少年

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要读多少经

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最后某一天云开雾散

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但他这一悟

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是在一节高铁车厢里

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戴着耳机

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眼前不断闪过的是普通的中国乡村田野

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他悟到了什么

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他写

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那一刻

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我照见了内心的痛苦

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我突然意识到

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并不是我去拯救我那位至亲

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是她的孩子来拯救她

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并不是我去拯救她

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而我恰恰是被拯救的那个

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家里那场看起来无解的灾难

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他原以为他是那个救火的人

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他白天打电话

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找资源

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调心理医生

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晚上自己崩溃

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他一直把自己装在救人者这个角色里

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但当他在高铁上听见那一句

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一念净心花开遍世界的时候

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他突然反过来看见了

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那个孩子的病

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不是这个家的灾难

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是这个家有救的最后一把火苗

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那位至亲的崩溃

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不是绝望

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是她重新看见自己心里那盏灯的契机

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而他自己

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那个一直觉得自己在救别人的他

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其实是被这场灾难逼着长大的

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被这一家人逼着面对自己我执的那个人

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他不是救主

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他是学生

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他说：我看到了我的归途

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悲欣交集

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我读完这一段

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停了大概有十分钟没动

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因为这恰恰是末那识最难破的那个壳

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我们一辈子最深的我执

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不是我有钱

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不是我成功

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不是我聪明

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这些都是末那识的浅层游戏

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最深的那一层是什么

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是我是个好人

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我是来帮别人的

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我是那个救别人的

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这是慈悲面具下的我执

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它比所有自私的我执都更难破

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因为它看起来太对了

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它甚至自带道德豁免权

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苏乞儿那一期我们讲过

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洪七公是被绞索勒到没办法假装

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自己还有什么我剩下来的时候

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才把那条绞索从命运手里抢过来的

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这位粉丝呢

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他是被一种更隐秘的方式打破的

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他是被他想救的那个人

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反过来救了

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末那识不停地从阿赖耶识里调取关于我的故事

366
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这位粉丝阿赖耶识里那个最坚固的种子是什么

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是我是这一家人里头脑最清楚的那个

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是我是要把这一家人扛起来的那个

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这颗种子

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他自己一辈子都看不见

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直到他至亲的孩子

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那个青春期的孩子

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用自己的病

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把这颗种子从他阿赖耶识里挖出来

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让他在高铁上听一句歌词的时候

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看见了

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不是少年救了他

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不是他至亲救了他

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是这场所有人一起塌进去的废墟

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让所有人

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包括他

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重新被打回了我什么都不是的地方

383
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而正是从我什么都不是开始

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爱才能流出来

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他在文档最后给出了一个他自己摸出来的存在的意义

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我念给你听

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他说

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存在的意义有两层

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低层次叫消业

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从命理的角度

391
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是了结因果

392
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从财务的角度

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是把上辈子欠的债还掉

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从物理的角度

395
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是在熵增的宇宙里制造一点点低熵

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从今天人工智能的角度

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他的原话是这么说的

398
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是净化阿赖耶识里那些被污染了的数据

399
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高层次叫尽量多地体验和给予美好的生命情感

400
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然后他给自己定了三个修炼目标

401
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第一

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扬弃以我为中心的一切执念

403
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第二

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感谢生活给予的一切

405
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幸福也好

406
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苦难也好

407
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并且始终向上地去活

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第三

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保持充沛的共情力

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共情文学

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音乐

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艺术

413
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历史

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哲学

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与人共情

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与事共情

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与一切美好的生命情感共情

418
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加上两个方便法门

419
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做任何事

420
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尽量享受过程

421
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可以想结果

422
00:13:57,144 --> 00:13:58,673
但别执着于结果

423
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时刻对抗内心的优越感和自卑感

424
00:14:02,184 --> 00:14:03,543
像对待自己一样

425
00:14:03,544 --> 00:14:05,793
平等对待你遇到的每一个人

426
00:14:06,184 --> 00:14:08,073
哪怕是你最看不起的人

427
00:14:08,225 --> 00:14:10,153
哪怕是你最仰慕的人

428
00:14:10,585 --> 00:14:10,974
他写

429
00:14:11,345 --> 00:14:13,033
我现在觉得挺幸福的

430
00:14:13,304 --> 00:14:15,433
因为我有充沛的生命情感

431
00:14:15,585 --> 00:14:17,673
时常被简单的美好打动

432
00:14:17,745 --> 00:14:19,234
这是我最大的财富

433
00:14:19,428 --> 00:14:20,225
好

434
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故事讲完了

435
00:14:21,264 --> 00:14:22,394
我想说几句

436
00:14:22,664 --> 00:14:25,433
我从来不主张所有人都去学禅宗

437
00:14:25,664 --> 00:14:28,594
也从来不主张所有人都去研究唯识学

438
00:14:28,784 --> 00:14:30,833
这位粉丝走通了这条路

439
00:14:30,865 --> 00:14:32,793
不是因为这条路是唯一的

440
00:14:32,825 --> 00:14:35,453
是因为这条路恰好能接住他这个人

441
00:14:35,664 --> 00:14:37,754
在那个时刻的具体痛苦

442
00:14:37,985 --> 00:14:39,953
但他这份文档里有一个东西

443
00:14:40,144 --> 00:14:41,634
我觉得是普适的

444
00:14:41,865 --> 00:14:42,833
那个反转

445
00:14:43,345 --> 00:14:44,254
我们这一辈子

446
00:14:44,465 --> 00:14:46,224
最容易陷进去的位置

447
00:14:46,225 --> 00:14:47,614
不是我是受害者

448
00:14:48,065 --> 00:14:49,514
是我是救助者

449
00:14:49,904 --> 00:14:52,144
我们告诉自己我在帮孩子

450
00:14:52,144 --> 00:14:53,354
我在养父母

451
00:14:53,384 --> 00:14:54,583
我在带团队

452
00:14:54,585 --> 00:14:55,573
我在扛家庭

453
00:14:55,985 --> 00:14:57,193
我在做公益

454
00:14:57,465 --> 00:14:59,703
然后我们就把所有的牺牲

455
00:14:59,705 --> 00:15:00,874
所有的失望

456
00:15:00,904 --> 00:15:02,744
所有的为什么没人理解我

457
00:15:02,745 --> 00:15:05,234
全部攒在那个救助者的身份里

458
00:15:05,544 --> 00:15:06,673
攒到某一天

459
00:15:06,745 --> 00:15:09,313
那个身份成了我们最大的我执

460
00:15:09,465 --> 00:15:12,394
成了我们阿赖耶识里最厚的那层污垢

461
00:15:12,745 --> 00:15:15,033
如果你今天正在某种黑暗里

462
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可能是事业的低谷

463
00:15:16,705 --> 00:15:19,193
可能是家里那个不断让你心碎的人

464
00:15:19,345 --> 00:15:22,553
可能是你和某个亲人之间永远理不清的烂账

465
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我没法把你拉出来

466
00:15:24,985 --> 00:15:26,634
但你可以问自己一个问题

467
00:15:27,024 --> 00:15:29,994
这个问题就是这位粉丝走出来的那把钥匙

468
00:15:30,465 --> 00:15:32,293
你以为你是去救他的那个吗

469
00:15:32,945 --> 00:15:33,453
还是说

470
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他正在用他的方式

471
00:15:35,585 --> 00:15:37,173
你认不出来的那种方式

472
00:15:37,465 --> 00:15:38,094
在救你

473
00:15:38,784 --> 00:15:39,913
如果是后者

474
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你愿意把我是救他的那个这块牌子

475
00:15:43,384 --> 00:15:44,653
从胸口拿下来吗

476
00:15:45,304 --> 00:15:47,274
这块牌子拿下来的那一刻

477
00:15:47,465 --> 00:15:49,234
乌云就开始散了

478
00:15:49,945 --> 00:15:51,274
爱才能流出来

479
00:15:51,544 --> 00:15:52,913
至于那位粉丝

480
00:15:53,105 --> 00:15:55,594
我之所以把他的故事讲给大家

481
00:15:55,664 --> 00:15:57,874
不是因为他比谁都高明

482
00:15:58,424 --> 00:15:59,433
恰恰相反

483
00:15:59,544 --> 00:16:04,073
他在文档倒数第二页只用了一行字给自己做了总结

484
00:16:04,745 --> 00:16:06,274
我现在看清楚了

485
00:16:06,345 --> 00:16:08,394
我是一个再普通不过的人

486
00:16:08,585 --> 00:16:10,744
我以前取得的那些成绩

487
00:16:10,745 --> 00:16:12,634
也不是因为我多优秀

488
00:16:12,784 --> 00:16:13,533
是运气好

489
00:16:13,865 --> 00:16:15,274
赶上了那个时代

490
00:16:15,585 --> 00:16:18,583
我的很多想法和看法经过时间

491
00:16:18,585 --> 00:16:20,354
都被证明是平庸的

492
00:16:20,384 --> 00:16:21,594
甚至错误的

493
00:16:21,865 --> 00:16:24,714
一个把自己看到这个程度的中年人

494
00:16:24,745 --> 00:16:28,504
才是真正能从他自己阿赖耶识那个仓库里

495
00:16:28,504 --> 00:16:31,634
把我这个字一颗一颗挖出来的人

496
00:16:32,225 --> 00:16:33,333
这就是他给我

497
00:16:33,664 --> 00:16:34,634
也给你们

498
00:16:34,705 --> 00:16:35,994
最大的礼物

499
00:16:36,264 --> 00:16:37,913
最后我想问你一句话

500
00:16:38,065 --> 00:16:39,614
你身边那个让你最痛

501
00:16:39,904 --> 00:16:40,864
最委屈

502
00:16:40,865 --> 00:16:44,153
最让你觉得我做了那么多他都看不见的人

503
00:16:44,264 --> 00:16:45,293
你愿意试着

504
00:16:45,504 --> 00:16:47,224
把他从被救的位置

505
00:16:47,225 --> 00:16:49,573
挪到救你的位置上看一看吗

506
00:16:50,105 --> 00:16:51,333
如果你看见了什么

507
00:16:51,585 --> 00:16:53,073
欢迎写在评论区

508
00:16:53,544 --> 00:16:55,394
我每天最享受的一刻

509
00:16:55,465 --> 00:16:57,793
就是看你们在评论区说话的时候

510
00:16:58,065 --> 00:17:01,793
那些话有时候比我视频里的内容更打动我

511
00:17:01,985 --> 00:17:02,614
我是王利杰

512
00:17:02,904 --> 00:17:03,706
我们下期见